One of the things our men are looking for is affirmation. If he knows that we find him desirable and attractive, it goes a long way in giving him confidence in other areas of his life.

What drew you to him in the first place? I know he had a great sense of humor, and was kind, but let’s go shallower than that. What physical attribute did you first notice about him?Was it his piercing green eyes, his crooked little smile, his cute butt? Remind him that he still “does it” for you.

Prayer for Today Dear God, may my husband know that I am attracted to him and choose him above all other guys.

Getting Creative Looking for inspiration? Check out the Song of Solomon in the Old Testament. Talk about knowing how to show your adoration – woo hoo.

• A little out of practice when it comes to flirting? Imagine what you would love to hear from your husband and turn it around on him.

• Walk in on him when he is on the shower, just stand there and when he asks what are you looking at, just sigh and say, “Just enjoying the show.”

• No fair using your womanly wiles on him when he is performing a household task. The words “Wow, you look so hot when you are scrubbing the toilet,” are not allowed.

Your Project: In some small way today, let your husband know you’re still attracted to him physically.

We start off the week by getting rid of one piece of “comfortable” clothing. You know the one – it could be the pair of sweats, some comfy slippers, or a college sweatshirt. Your husband may not even notice that you have done away with it. The point is you are taking another step towards thinking about him when getting dressed, instead of going to those sad, sad, jammie bottoms once again.

Prayer for Today Dear God, make me focus on actions that change my attitude, instead of trying to change my husband.

Getting Creative Just get rid of it. That’s all. You know what “it” is. For me, it was my pair of brown, cropped sweatpants that I thought were perfectly acceptable…but my husband would ask, “Do you want time to change before we leave?” even if we were just going to pick up a carton of milk. I got the hint.

• What do your slippers look like? If they’re the pair you had in college, time to walk them out the door.
• For one of my friends, it was a hair scrunchie that was seeing a little too much time outside of the house. (There was a bonus here because a number of her friends were about to have a scrunchie intervention. This project kept her out of a scrunchie 12-Step Program.)

Your Project: Get rid of one item of clothing you know your husband is not in love with. If it’s a favorite that you’ll have a hard time parting with, go ahead and purchase a replacement you know your guy will like.

It’s an unfair fact of life – men love a woman who can cook. This is the project where you get to put your culinary talent to use. Cook something he loves.

If you’re not a cook, look for something easy. (We’ll be sending out recipes once a week that any non-cook can master.)

Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray that my husband knows my love for him by my efforts, not just the results.

Your Project:
Make your husband something special in the kitchen (reservations don’t count).

As promised, here’s an easy recipe for you to surprise your man: Buffalo Wings with Bleu Cheese Dressing, a definite favorite for most guys. You can also make this as a trial run before Super Bowl Sunday, when wings are sure to be a hit!

Click here for Buffalo Wings recipe.

By Paula Friedrichsen

A new year is upon us and we can’t let this opportunity for a fresh start and new beginning pass us by. 2008 stretches out before us full of possibilities. I believe this could be the year you experience a breakthrough in your marriage. Your whole life could change this year! But it’s up to you to seize the day. It’s up to you to call upon the Living God. [Read more...]

Your life is so busy. It’s hard to find a moment for yourself each day. There are days when I could go for hours, so involved in my own projects that I can totally forget to think about, or pray for, my husband.

What can you put in place to remind you to think about your husband throughout the day? Be creative. Maybe it’s a picture of him on your dashboard, or spraying his cologne on a scarf and keeping it in your purse. Whatever it is that reminds you of him, keep it around so you can call him later that day and say, “You have been on my mind all day.” Trust me, it will make his day.

Prayer for Today
Dear God, help me with any attitude of entitlement I have about our workload being equal. Help me to have an attitude of service instead of bitterness in every situation.

Getting Creative
Set an alarm on your cell phone for every couple of hours today. Let this be a reminder to stop and pray for your husband throughout the day.

Do you have a picture of your husband on your cell phone? Make sure you do so that when he calls, his cute face will show up. (Ask a techie teenager to show you how to program this on your cell.)

Your Project:
Set up reminders during your day to think and pray for your husband. Let him know sometime during the day that he has been on your mind.

Be intentional about noticing the great stuff he does. If he does a great job cooking the pasta, or playing with the kids, big or small, it doesn’t matter.

It’s time to really seek out all the things he excels at. Keep the list to yourself or let him in on how wonderful he really is.

Just once today, let him know something you love about him.

Prayer for Today
Dear God, my husband has so many great qualities I can overlook. Let me see him with new eyes today.

Getting Creative
Keep a 3×5 card in your pocket today. Every time some great quality about your guy comes to mind, make a note of it.

If you’re having a hard time coming up with items for your list, ask around. Ask your friends, your mom, your kids – anyone who is a fan of your man can help point out all the good stuff.

Does your husband have to remove a driveway-full of bikes before he can park his car? Is he a neat freak who comes home to Mount Fold-me on the couch every day?

Today’s focus is to remove one stressor from his life. Figure out what makes him feel a tiny sense of defeat each day and plan to remove it.

Prayer for Today
Dear God, let me do these things, not to be noticed, but so my husband will feel loved and honored, even in the little things.

Getting Creative

• Does the sound of Cartoon Network blaring when he gets home drive your guy nuts? Maybe some Mozart (or Creedence Clearwater Revival) would be a better sound to greet him with.

• Does your he-man need to wade through piles of make-up and “product” just to brush his teeth? Time to declare some man territory in the bathroom. Put your stuff in baskets or on shelves so he has clear access to all his gear.

• Where’s his favorite spot in the house? If it’s the chair by the TV, make sure the remote is handy and his news magazine is at hand.

Your Project:
Remove some little annoyance from his life.