This one is supposed to go in the “changes in him or you” from your book request! I have noticed a big change in my thinking about being a good wife to my husband. One of the big things I noticed is my desire to put myself in his shoes. Your projects about figuring out what bugs him in the house (clutter) and his need for a nap or relaxation etc. I have gotten a bit one sided in my thinking (only about what bugs me or is inconvenient for me). This may sound typical, but I am actually the “work all the time martyr type”. I think that I have gotten really burned out from my husbands very demanding work schedule over the last two years. What I have changed, is my attitude about doing things that he likes because if I don’t, I know it bugs him, to an attitude of: I love my husband, I appreciate that he works so hard for me and our family and I want to do things in our household that will make his life more pleasant and enjoyable. He is a great guy and very cheerful, and it has been good for me to look in the mirror (these projects) and see where I have let my own neglect of taking care of my own needs for rest and relaxation and I have blamed him for my overwork and feelings of burn-out. It really isn’t his fault, and I was totally blaming him. THANK YOU KATHI !!! It really made a huge difference in my attitude. It has also motivated me to find the things that I need to do to reduce my work-load and get regular relaxation so that I can enjoy my wonderful husband and children every day.