by kathilipp | Mar 11, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Keep it simple today.
Put a Post-It in his briefcase, on his dashboard, in his wallet; anywhere he will find it. Make it fun, make it flirty, but just make sure he is the one who will find it. Wink-wink.
Prayer for Today
Wherever he is God, remind my husband that he is loved and thought of.
Getting Creative
Think about your husband’s day and all the places he might find your note:
- The spare change tray in his car
- His drawer in the bathroom
- Under his car keys
- Your mailbox
- In his shoe
- In the medicine cabinet
Your Project:
Leave a cute and flirty note for your husband to find.
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by kathilipp | Mar 10, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Back to food.
One of our favorite getaway spots is a little bed and breakfast in the mountains. When you ask my husband why he likes it so much, you very well might hear about the cheese and cracker plate with fruit that is always waiting for us when we arrive.
It’s time to take a little of the B&B experience home.
Why not have a snack to share when he gets home? Some of his favorite nuts and chocolates up in your room, or some cheese and crackers out on the patio could be just the transition he needs after a long day.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, remind me to treat my husband with more care and honor than any guest who comes into our home.
Getting Creative
- My husband loves a special kind of root beer that we cannot keep in the house. (With four teenagers it’s hard to keep them from eating anything within their line of sight.) If I want to make sure he can have a cold drink after work, I hide it under the veggies in the crisper – no chance of the kids looking there.
- If your husband gets home before you do, plan ahead by hiding a treat in the fridge for him. Call during the day to let him know that it’s waiting for him.
To read ideas from other project managers, or to leave a comment click here.
by kathilipp | Mar 9, 2008 | The Husband Project |
My husband loves to go out to dinner. He promises me it has nothing to do with my cooking; he just likes the whole experience of dining on the town. Recently, I went to his favorite Mexican restaurant and got a gift card with just enough on it to cover dinner for two. When he drove into the garage that evening, I ambushed him and let him know that dinner was on me tonight.
With the car still running I jumped in and we headed to our slightly impromptu date night. That has probably been the most successful project for me so far – he still talks about how great it was to come home and see that it was all planned out.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, it’s my deepest desire that my husband knows he is loved and cherished. Let my words, planning and actions reflect that everyday.
Getting Creative
- If you don’t know whether your husband will be in the kind of mood that an ambush dinner requires, present him with the gift card to be used tonight, or another night of his choice.
- Steaks on the BBQ when he gets home may be just the thing your man would love.
- The aroma of cooking can be as much a part of this project as the food itself. Having lasagna baking in the oven with garlic bread ready to go would be most husbands’ dreams come true.
Your Project:
Make it his favorite meal – whether it’s eating out or eating in.
To read what other project managers have cooked up, or to leave a comment click here.
by kathilipp | Mar 8, 2008 | The Husband Project |
I keep a pretty frenetic pace in life. That along with the fact that we have four kids, has meant, sadly, sleeping in for my husband has become nothing but a distant memory.
Make an opportunity today to let your husband have the morning he would like. If he wants to sleep in, do what’s needed to make that happen. If his idea of a great morning is getting up and going for a run, or going to look at classic cars, make that happen – whether you go together or he wants to go by himself to linger, no worries. Any answer here is valid – just as long as it’s something that blesses him.
Obviously this is best done on his day off, so swap days accordingly.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray that my husband finds places of rest in his day. Let me contribute to that today.
Getting Creative
- Let him in on your plans for his day off. You can ask him earlier in the week what he would like to do on his day off. Find out if you really need a babysitter, or would he like to hike with you and the kids in a nearby park?
- Start planning early in the week. The sooner you start planning, the less stress there will be to arrange for any last minute details. Remember, the point is not to stress you out; it’s to bless your guy.
Your Project:
Whatever it takes to let him have some time off, make it happen. That simple.
To read about others’ days off, or to leave a comment click here.
by kathilipp | Mar 7, 2008 | Uncategorized |
Congratulations to LE, our project manager who won this week’s $10 Bath & Body Works card by submitting the following comment regarding Project 12 What Not to Wear. (Click here to read more Project 12 comments.)
LE Says:
I was just telling my man the other day, I have noticed an improvement in an area that needed work. He smiled at me, I think he was glad I noticed.
To LE: Please contact us at kathi@thehusbandproject.org, so we can send your Bath & Body Works card right away.
To all Project Managers: Remember to submit your comments. Other project managers enjoy reading comments to get ideas and see how other hubbies are responding. Your comment can be short and sweet, or you can provide as many details as you like. With each entry your name is entered into our weekly drawing.
New Prize for This Week:
Be sure to enter a comment and have a chance to win one of my favorite books: “Only Uni” by Camy Tang. “The sassy narrative is solid chick lit, with all the requisite chatter about yummy food, body type, finding a guy and loser dates…” (Publisher’s Weekly). Click here to leave a comment and get entered today.
Keep up the blessings for your guy!
Kathi
by kathilipp | Mar 7, 2008 | The Husband Project |
One of the things our men are looking for is affirmation. If he knows that we find him desirable and attractive, it goes a long way in giving him confidence in other areas of his life.
What drew you to him in the first place? I know he had a great sense of humor, and was kind, but let’s go shallower than that. What physical attribute did you first notice about him? Was it his piercing green eyes, his crooked little smile, his cute butt? Remind him that he still “does it” for you.
Prayer for Today Dear God, may my husband know that I am attracted to him and choose him above all other guys.
Getting Creative Looking for inspiration? Check out the Song of Solomon in the Old Testament. Talk about knowing how to show your adoration – woo hoo.
- A little out of practice when it comes to flirting? Imagine what you would love to hear from your husband and turn it around on him.
- Walk in on him when he is on the shower, just stand there and when he asks what are you looking at, just sigh and say, “Just enjoying the show.”
- No fair using your womanly wiles on him when he is performing a household task. The words “Wow, you look so hot when you are scrubbing the toilet,” are not allowed.
Your Project: In some small way today, let your husband know you’re still attracted to him physically.
To see how others are “complimenting’ their guys, or to leave a comment click here.
by kathilipp | Mar 6, 2008 | The Husband Project |
We start off the week by getting rid of one piece of “comfortable” clothing. You know the one – it could be the pair of sweats, some comfy slippers, or a college sweatshirt. Your husband may not even notice that you have done away with it. The point is you are taking another step towards thinking about him when getting dressed, instead of going to those sad, sad, jammie bottoms once again.
Prayer for Today Dear God, make me focus on actions that change my attitude, instead of trying to change my husband.
Getting Creative Just get rid of it. That’s all. You know what “it” is. For me, it was my pair of brown, cropped sweatpants that I thought were perfectly acceptable…but my husband would ask, “Do you want time to change before we leave?” even if we were just going to pick up a carton of milk. I got the hint.
- What do your slippers look like? If they’re the pair you had in college, time to walk them out the door.
- For one of my friends, it was a hair scrunchie that was seeing a little too much time outside of the house. (There was a bonus here because a number of her friends were about to have a scrunchie intervention. This project kept her out of a scrunchie 12-Step Program.)
Your Project: Get rid of one item of clothing you know your husband is not in love with. If it’s a favorite that you’ll have a hard time parting with, go ahead and purchase a replacement you know your guy will like.
To read what others have given up, or to leave a comment click here.
by kathilipp | Mar 6, 2008 | The Husband Project |
One time this week: Time to clear out the house. If you have kids, send them to grandma’s for the night. If you have a regular bunco game, skip it. Cancel appointments with your friends and make one with your husband. Let him know early in the day what you would like to do tonight. This could be one of his better workdays in a long time.
Prayer for Today Dear God, sometimes I see sex as a burden instead of the gift it is for our marriage. Please help me feel confident in the area of our sex life.
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by kathilipp | Mar 5, 2008 | The Husband Project |
It’s an unfair fact of life – men love a woman who can cook. This is the project where you get to put your culinary talent to use. Cook something he loves.If you’re not a cook, look for something easy. (We’ll be sending out recipes once a week that any non-cook can master.)
Prayer for Today
Dear God, I pray that my husband knows my love for him by my efforts, not just the results.
Your Project:
Make your husband something special in the kitchen (reservations don’t count).
To read ideas from other project managers or leave a comment, click here.
by kathilipp | Mar 4, 2008 | The Husband Project |
Your life is so busy. It’s hard to find a moment for yourself each day. There are days when I could go for hours, so involved in my own projects that I can totally forget to think about, or pray for, my husband.
What can you put in place to remind you to think about your husband throughout the day? Be creative. Maybe it’s a picture of him on your dashboard, or spraying his cologne on a scarf and keeping it in your purse.
Whatever it is that reminds you of him, keep it around so you can call him later that day and say, “You have been on my mind all day.” Trust me, it will make his day.
Prayer for Today
Dear God, help me with any attitude of entitlement I have about our workload being equal. Help me to have an attitude of service instead of bitterness in every situation.
Getting Creative
Set an alarm on your cell phone for every couple of hours today. Let this be a reminder to stop and pray for your husband throughout the day.
Do you have a picture of your husband on your cell phone? Make sure you do so that when he calls, his cute face will show up. (Ask a techie teenager to show you how to program this on your cell.)
Your Project:
Set up reminders during your day to think and pray for your husband. Let him know sometime during the day that he has been on your mind.
To read ideas from other project managers or leave a comment, click here.
