7 Days of Praying for Your Man – Day 1 When He Feels Inadequate

For the first day of our praying adventure, I asked my friend, Arlene Pellicane, author of 31 Days to a Happy Husband, to talk about how to pray  for your husband when he is feeling inadequate. See how to win Arlene’s new book at the end of the post.

I always picture my husband with a huge “S” across his chest. He is my rescuer – the one who changes the car battery,

solves my computer problem, and makes breakfast for the family on many days.
What I sometimes forget is that “Superman” has a bad day in the office once in awhile. He might feel like a hero while the hot oatmeal is being served but a few hours later, he feels like he’s barely in control of his circumstances.

That’s when I can pray that the Lord will fill his heart and mind with peace and wisdom. When my husband feels inadequate, I can pray that his weakness becomes an opportunity to experience God’s strength.

May this verse guide our prayers today for our husbands: 
“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” Isaiah 26:3

Lord, help my husband to keep his mind totally focused on you today. May he trust in your steadfast love and in your ability to solve the problems that face him today. Keep him in your perfect peace. Settle his mind and heart. Give him courage because he trusts in you.


Thanks to Arlene! And if you would like an opportunity to win her book 31 Days to a Happy Husband, let us know in the comments that you prayed for your man. Yep – you’re already a winner if you pray for your man, but you could win a book, too!

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  1. Kim Sanders says:

    I prayed this prayer for my husband. I already pray for him, but I appreciate any Godly insight given to me! Thank you!

  2. Christi McKeen says:

    I prayed that prayer! thank you so much for your guidance! My husband is currently deployed and our marriage has recently survived some troubled waters! We are stronger than ever and I love him so much! I am always grateful for new ways to pray for him. THANK YOU!!!!

  3. Gina kuntzman says:

    Prayed this great prayer. Thank you for your post. My husband is not a believer but I pray that
    Through his inadequate feelings he will see his need

  4. Heidi J says:

    That’s a prayer my husband needs daily. Thank you!

  5. Sheila Leitsch says:

    I prayed this for my husband as well.

  6. Lynsi Freitag says:

    Prayed this for my husband! Thanks!

  7. jamie jerome says:

    Thanks for the insight. I lead a MOPS group and I would love this book as a resource to encourage our moms to pray for their husbands!

  8. Prayed and praying… I am in an unequally yoked marriage.
    Persevering,praising and paring salvation and freedom for my man and marriage
    Thanks for your effort,time and encouragement

  9. I love this idea! I prayed for my husband today and will continue all week!

  10. Praying, praying, praying…also praying for my Dad right now as he is struggling with my Mum’s illness.

  11. traceytracy says:

    I prayed for my husband today! Thank you for the guidance!

  12. Rachelle says:

    I prayed for my husband. He’s about to leave for his 5th deployment, and we’re both reeling as he just returned from Afghanistan in January. He really needs encouragement and all the prayer support he can get right now. Thank you!

  13. My husband has his left arm in a sling for 6 weeks so he is feeling very inadequate right now. Thankfully he is expected to make a full recovery, but this prayer is very encouraging for him. Thanks!

  14. Heather Gammel says:

    Thank you for posting this. My husband needs daily prayer but I don’t always remember to do it.

  15. Day 1 down!

  16. Rhonda Brown says:

    Prayed for my husband this morning. Thanks for the guidance.

  17. Sheila Robinson says:

    Prayed! Thank you so much!!

  18. Lauren Kindle says:

    I said a prayer for him. I hope he doesn’t feel inadequate because he is just amazing. But everyone has down days.

  19. Donna Mahoney says:

    Dear Kathi,

    Thank you so much for doing this! This came at a perfect time. My husband is really feeling inadequate right now, and I was feeling helpless in knowing what to do to help him. You are an answer to prayer I didn’t realize I had! God continually amazes me! I prayed this for my husband today, and it will help me throughout the rest of the day in praying for my hero! THANK YOU again!
    Love in Christ,

  20. Froggee says:

    I just prayed for my man and believing the Lord is Goin to do great things in our marriage. We are struggling right now in a lot of ways. One being we have identical twin 2 year old girls and a baby boy due in August. Lots of hormones going on over here and he’s coming up on his last semester of college. Student teaching and no income. We have to trust the Lord w/ all our hearts and I know praying for my husband will make a HUGE difference and bring many blessings our way. Thank you Kathi!
    Caryn ;)

  21. Lory Winters says:

    Thank you so much for the 7 day praying for your husband.
    A lot of men will be blessed by this!

  22. I would love a copy of that book. My husband has been feeling inadequate for various reasons and I have been struggling for the right words during prayer – thank you for the guidance. I am eager to continue this journey.

  23. I prayed for my husband this morning. My sweet man has been caring for me through many illnesses over the past few months, and tomorrow will be taking me for yet another surgery. This is so hard for him, and he feels very inadequate right now because he can’t fix me. This couldn’t have come at a better time.

    • Amy Brandon says:

      Good morning! I just wanted you to know that I am praying for you and your husband as you are going through your surgery today. I understand having illness and the hubs feeling inadequate for not being able to fix it. I became ill one month before our wedding last summer, and have been struggling with different severe illnesses off and on since then.
      Lord, I pray that Shawna’s husband would find peace and assuredness in who he is in you. And I pray that the discourgaement and frustration of not having all the answers and solutions to these problems that Shawna is dealing with would not bring him down. I pray that right now you would protect both of them spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally, and that they would find peace in knowing that you are holding them in Your embrace. Bless their marriage as they strive to serve You and seek You in these trying times. I also pray that You would guide the doctors and attendants who are working with Shawna; give them strength and wisdom. Lord, please touch her body and send healing to her. I pray that You would give her peace, comfort and even relaxation as she knows that You are caring for her and watching after her. Amen.

  24. Krischelle says:

    I did it! Prayed this prayer for my main squeeze (only squeeze!) :) He is a rock. But, I also know that there are times when he feels like he isn’t equal to the task of raising two strong daughters! He is the PERFECT father for them (with God’s help!) and he is one of the primary reasons we have these two amazing, self-aware, intelligent and loved girls – because he pours into them with encouragement and words to build them up! So excited to devote time to lifting him, specifically, in prayer this week.

  25. Katie Onofry says:

    love this! I just prayed for my husband god was leading me to this 7 day pray my husband really needs it right now.

  26. Cheryl Maksymowski says:

    Thank you so much for giving us this challenge. I challenged my girlfriend to join me I praying for our husbands daily…. Praying for my husband this morning.

  27. Christi says:

    I’m afraid I’m often the one who makes my husband feel inadequate. But praying for my husband to not feel that way (and for me to back off!) especially in his non-friendly work environment.

  28. I prayed for my husband this morning!

  29. I prayed for my husband.

  30. Thank you for another way to pray for my hubby whois in Afghanistan and being attacked by Satan. :(

  31. Jen Dancy says:

    Thanks for doing this Kathi. My husband is pre-Christian (heard that from someone else, puts a more positive spin on it :) ) and I know I need to bombard heaven for him–“sic God on him” as my mom puts it– but get so caught up in my own stuff that I forget how much he needs my prayers. Thanks for starting the habit!

  32. Christie says:

    I prayed for my husband! I love the way this blog encourages us to be the initiator of improving our relationship! :)

  33. Anonymous says:

    I prayed for my husband; I pray for him every day!

  34. Nicole Hamilton says:

    I prayed this prayer for my husband; I pray for him every day!

  35. Renee Coggins says:

    I prayed for my husband. Thank you for helping to focus our prayers!

  36. I prayed.

  37. In Jesus’ name, Amen!!!

  38. Anastasha says:

    Just prayed for my man. So thankful for this reminder as I need to put more time into talking to my Heavenly Father for our marriage and family. Thanks!

  39. I prayed for my husband today. Thanks.

  40. I do pray for my man, not as often as I should. And I never thought about him feeling inadequate at times. Thank you for this. I look forward to the next 6 days.

  41. I prayed for husband with this prayer this morning.

  42. Chris A. says:

    What a great series! Excited!!

    Though my husband doesn’t ever really use the words, I know there are days he feels like a failure at work. He is far from it! Thanks for the great post – prayed!!

  43. Michelle says:

    Prayed for my husband this morning. Looking forward to the next six days.

  44. So want that for my husband. Sometimes I wonder if he ever embraces peace. He loves the Lord, but I think full surrender is very, very hard for men.

  45. Jessica says:

    Im praying for my husband! Loving this series so far!!

  46. Praying this today!

  47. Amy Brandon says:

    I prayed this prayer for my husband just now. God has taught me in the last few months of our 10-month marriage the importance and power of praying for my husband. The words I pray on his behalf have so much more impact than any words I could ever speak to my husband to try to offer him words of encouragement or comfort on my own (except for the words that God speaks through me to him). Thank you so much for sharing this verse and prayer.

  48. Nicole Bimber says:

    I have been struggling with the right words to pray with fort husband, we are newleyweds and his job is currently very frustrating for him and he works hard early mornings plus an hour drive there and back and I have been trying so hard to pray that he relies on the Lord. This is a wonderful prayer, I’m so glad I got to read it I think I will save it for many more days!
    Thank you! :)

  49. Thanks. I prayed for my husband today. It changed my attitude towards him as I was particularly frustrated with him.

  50. I pray daily for my hubby.

  51. Prayed for my husband….I’m struggling….

  52. I’m praying for my husband,and thankful that you reminded me to pray that because he is struggling right now with those feelings.

  53. I love this prayer and it fits my hubby’s needs so well. I pray for all of you hubbies as well and for us wives and mothers that we have the strength (and memory!) to do this daily for ourselves, our hubbies, and in turn our families as a whole! Thank you, Kathi!

  54. I prayed for my husband and am thankful you reminded me to pray like that since he is really struggling with that these days.

  55. I prayed for my hubby today. We are in the midst of downsizing to a smaller house, he is feeling out of control busy at work and it puts so much strain and stress on him. Thank you for helping me know how to pray for him today.

  56. I just got divorced recently. But I am still upholding him in my prayer hence I sign up for this prayer although he no longer is my husband legally. I like this prayer & I hope my ex husband will trust in the Lord & believe in Him. Amen.

  57. Prayed for my husband..He works so hard each day for our family and I know I don’t always appreciate what he does the way I need to. As a mother of 3 toddler boys it is hard on a daily basis and I forget at times how hard he works so we can have even the little things in our lives… I thank God for a Godly husband who loves the Lord and wants to lead his family the way God would want him too. God- watch over him today and keep him healthy and strong and give him peace at work as he provides for our family.. Amen

  58. Thanks for reminding me to pray for my husband, he really needs the Lord right now and I forget to pray for him. Thanks

  59. Kristie S. says:

    Learning to pray for my hubby more consistently, I’m looking forward to this week and some new “ways” to pray for him. Love this. Thank you!

  60. Christina says:

    Thanks Kathi for a focused plan to get us praying for our men!

  61. Prayed!

  62. Kathy, you are right on…my hubby is my superman and I don’t do enough praying for him. Day one…got it done!

  63. Such a simple task with a far-reaching impact. Thanks for the reminder to pray for him today!

  64. Elle aka Wonderwoman says:

    Thank you for the reminder. All prayed up. :)

  65. Prayed! Thankyou for your encouragement.

  66. My husband just started a new position at his work so this is a perfect topic for my prayers for him today.

  67. Melissa says:

    This is wonderful. Just prayed and want to keep praying for him to be empowered by Him!
    Thank you for putting this together!!!

  68. Praying for my husband.

  69. My Superman just came home from a retreat in Tahoe. It stirred up a lot in his heart. It’s great to pray for God to continue His good work in the one that I love!

  70. Prayed for my husband. I know he is having a hard time today and most likely will all week, dealing with people who don’t do their jobs (he has to take blame and cover for them) and who are not christians. It is tough, I know.

  71. Prayed!

  72. Mechelle says:

    Prayed for my husband. We have a big decision to make today and Im thankful this article today.

  73. I prayed this prayer for my husband – I also prayed that he be willing to listen to God and to lean on Him.

  74. i prayed bc he surely needs it!

  75. Stopped and prayed for my husband upon reading this. Thanks for encouraging us to step it up in this area.

  76. Always pray for my hubby, but hadn’t thought of this specific need. Thank you!

  77. My husband is heading into his busy (ie: stressful) time at work. This is one prayer that I will be saying over and over during the next couple of months!

  78. Stephanie says:

    Praying for my husband. Going through some tough stuff at the office…prayers for peace are always welcome!!!

  79. It’s so easy to pray for our kids everyday but I often forget to take the time to pray for my husband. Thank you for this reminder to stop and pray for him!

  80. glarlock says:

    Joining you all in praying for our husbands. It’s always good to have reminders! Thank you!

  81. I always pray for my husband but I find my prayers sometimes lack focus. Thanks for the help!
    Praying that my Hero has a super day!

  82. I prayed for my husband. He has been trying to find a job for a long time now and can’t even get an interview for jobs he is very well qualified for. I know it is really get to him.

  83. I prayed. We are moving from Hawaii to Fort Hood and it’s been one of our most difficult moves in 16 years. His job has become so difficult for him he can’t wait to leave. He has also leaned to much on the fact I can do things on my own that he just coasts. Boy I will pray he focuses more on God. Thanks so much.

  84. Happily prayed for my man! Thanks so much for sharing on him feeling inadequate, sometimes I forget that he also can feel this way. :)

  85. Jill Wolters says:

    Always ready to learn how I can do this help-meet thing better! Prayed & will continue to pray for my husband. Thanks!

  86. Prayed for the man God gave me! I am blessed!

  87. Summer is a really stressful time for my husband at work. I prayed for him today in his relationships and for his projects.

  88. Kim Barnes says:

    Excited to be a part of this and really commit to praying for my husband!

  89. this came at a perfect time! Praise God for His timing. My husband is in the military and is going through pilot training. It has been a struggle. Not a lot of quality time, and I began to focus on me and my needs. This prayer reminded me of who I have next to me every day by Gods grace! Thank u

  90. Christine says:

    I prayed for my man today. I don’t always remember to do that while praying for my kids and others. I am so thankful for this challenge.

  91. Laurie Marshall says:

    Thank you for reminding me. He is a truck driver and sometimes gets put in impossible circumstances. He used to be kind of a hothead but with my prayer and Jesus he has made unbelievable leaps and bounds. Yet, each day he still gets tested.

  92. Just prayed scripture over Joe. Thanks for guiding me to something specific to pray for!

  93. There is power in prayer. Thank you for reminding me of its importance, especially the power of the praying wife.

  94. May God remind my husband that he is the son of a King. Help him to recognize his strengths and to utilize the gift that God has given him. Help me to remember the power of being a praying wife.

  95. This is awesome! What a great reminder. I sure did pray for my man today. :)

  96. Praying for my husband. He definitely struggles with feelings of inadequacy, and I feel blessed that I can be his super hero, just as he is mine :)

  97. Lora Owen says:

    This post came at such perfect timing as my husband is cleaning up a “train wreck” at work right now. So I prayed for him throughout the day. It’s certainly easy to not think of what my hubbie is dealing with through the day when there’s not a “train wreck” to clean up. So, this is a very good reminder. Thank you!

  98. Love this! thank you so much for the details of the prayers. Such an important part of a marriage to consider your spouse.


  99. My superman came home from work frustrated with the job, yet thankful that he has one and that it is a short supply of them today. Thanks for the reminder and I did pray for my man!

  100. Lisa buchanan says:

    I prayed for my hubby today!

  101. Jessica says:

    Thank you for starting this prayer challenge, Kathi! It will run perfectly with a group I started with my friends for the Husband Project. We began with 4 women and now, in our third week, we have a total of 10 women, each paired with their chosen accountability partner(s), following their own plans to treat their husbands with love! We call it by a code name, Project Pink, and the book is our Instruction Manual. (And I even made a slogan for it… :)

    We have all enjoyed discussing our progress with each other as well as asking for suggestions on certain activities. It’s really nice to have people to talk to who are going through the same things, somewhere to vent and gain new perspectives. We hardly talked about our husbands so lovingly before we began this life-altering project! In fact, we like everything we’re doing so much, we will be continuing this project beyond the 21 days and are continually searching for more women to join us! We plan to keep this an open, ongoing project so we can help bring more women to love their husbands as God wants us to.

    Thanks again, for the prayer challenge… and for the book!!

  102. Christina says:

    I pray for my husband to have the strength to get through his tough days at work. He works so hard for is family, and I’m blessed to be his wife.

  103. Marilyn Lisenbee(Sunny) says:

    I know, Lord Jesus, that there are times when my dear husband feels inadequate. Help him to lean on you during these times and help me to support him which will help him though these times. We live in tough times and it important for us to remain strong and united. I am claiming Ecclesiastes 4:12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken, for each for us and for each woman here praying for her dear husband. Help our husband to remain strong during tough times. In Your Precious Name and according to Your will for marriages, I pray, Amen

  104. My husband works 10-12 hour days, then he comes home and works around the house, sometimes even making dinner for us. Thank you for this Project that encourages me to pray more specifically for my awesome husband-friend.

  105. Christina F says:

    When my husband is feeling inadequate, it is easy for that to spill onto me as well as a wife and mother. I am catching up on this prayer challenge and plan to follow this each day. Its a daily struggle to remember that I need to trust God to see us through these challenges and it will only get better with prayer, not only are we talking to God, but we are reminding ourselves that He is in control, not us.

  106. Sandy S says:

    I pray for my husband to have good, positive days at work. He works so hard and never, ever complains. He comes home happyto be with us no matter what he has gone through during the day. He loves just to be with his family and for that I am blessed.

  107. Well said. Praying for my husband! :-) Thanks for the reminders & encouragement!

  108. Holly Pierce says:

    Praying for my husband..

  109. I prayed for my husband. Thank you! Glad I found your website. :)

  110. Praying for my husband! Excited about this!

  111. Thank you Kathi — you’re a continual source of encouragement! Praying for my husband.

  112. Thank you for the encouraging e-mails! Praying fervently for my sweet hubby!

  113. I prayed for my man to feel God’s presence and know he is worthy of God’s love and adequate his family.

  114. Carol Boley says:

    Praying not ony for my beloved husband but for the husbands of all these other dear women as well…

  115. I pray for my hubby every day!

  116. Praying for my husband today during a week that he’s been feeling especially discouraged. Thank you for your help and encouragement!

  117. Praying for my husband today. We’re trying to make a tough decision about a job possibility, and he’s struggling.

  118. While I don’t have a husband, I currently have a boyfriend whom I love very, very much! I said this prayer and I will continue to pray for him.

    He is kind, strong, and loving. He needs good thoughts and blessings coming his way.


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