“Not everyone’s feedback is equal.”
We all need feedback to progress in many areas of our lives. But some types of feedback are better than others. Knowing what feedback to use and which to let go will save you from being overwhelmed by feedback.
You may have desired reassurance about something and ended up with a complete critique of your work.
The truth is, many people have no business speaking into our lives. They haven’t earned the right to give feedback.
Kathi and Overwhelmed co-author, Cheri Gregory discuss the various types of feedback and how to deal with each. They also provide a graphic feedback filter to help you determine what kind of feedback you desire and/or receive.
Clutter’s #1 priority is to keep us feeling overwhelmed.
Overwhelmed comes in many forms. Kathi and Overwhelmed co-author, Cheri Gregory, discuss how easy it is to be overwhelmed with clutter. They go through three of the top things clutter tells you!
- Clutter Keeps You In The Past – You hang on to things the crowd out the present.
- Clutter Keeps You Stuck in the Future – You buy things to be something. Because someday you might need it you hang on to all the clutter. You can’t live in the present when you have so much stuff and you are stuck in the future.
- Clutter Decides You Have Not Earned A Future – Because you have failed with various endeavors in the past, you won’t be good at something in the future. So yu are stuck in your current situation. Clutter says you don’t deserve to move forward.
Listen in and learn how decluttering will free you from the overwhelm.
Want more tips on being Clutter Free?
Check out Kathi’s blog posts and episodes of the Clutter Free Podcast by clicking here.
Time for a Fresh Start
Overwhelmed co-author, Cheri Gregory joins Kathi to discuss creating a “Fresh Start.”
Kathi loves the idea of a “Fresh Start.” As a self-described New Year’s resolution nerd, she has made dozens of resolutions and kept none of them. Kathi and Cheri talk about how resolutions can sometimes set you up for failure.
Perhaps a “Fresh Start” might be a better option. You can start it anytime and you can start over whenever needed.
A “Fresh Start” includes a personal manifesto that helps you live out your values. When you know what your values are you can make decisions based on values and not the emotion of the moment or the whims of others.
Your personal manifesto is based on who you are and who you aspire to be. It acts as a guide to determine actions and decisions.
A manifesto is NOT a resolution. It is who you are and who you are going to become. It is an integrity builder.
Kathi and Cheri invite you create your own manifesto. There are tools to help you and you can review their manifestos and many others, check out the download links below.
Some Things to Remember About Creating a Manifesto
- Should be written in the present but is who you aspire to be. Include some of your current positive attributes.
- It is allowed to be changed. It is not forever, it can be updated as you change and grow.
- A manifesto can be as short or long as you need it to be. If you can only think of three things, start there.
Join us again next week as we talk about how to start living out your own personal manifesto.
Remember every day is a new opportunity to have a “Fresh Start” and discover who you are and who you want to become.
Have you endured the Christmas Party where someone just pushes your buttons and you want to scream? Or the family dinner where Aunt Myrtle points out all the things wrong? We all have challenging people in our lives. Sometimes we can be the challenge. This is when a people plan can help.
Pre-deciding how we will behave when we are in those challenging situations helps us be the best person we can be.
Kathi and Overwhelmed co-author, Cheri Gregory, discuss various situations where a “people plan” can turn challenging events into less overwhelming situations.
People Plan Options
In this podcast, they talk about three options that can help you when it comes to pre-deciding how you will behave:
- Personal Manifesto – Creating a “personal manifesto” sets up a code of ethics that helps you pre-decide what you need and want and how to ask for it. (Kathi and Cheri’s manifesto can be viewed here)
- Acknowledgment – Acknowledge a pattern and discuss it. Perhaps the person is willing to change or you can change your reaction to their actions.
- Leave – Don’t subject yourself to disrespectful behavior.
Kathi and Cheri run through multiple scenarios to help you pre-plan your responses and help you deal with the overwhelm.
When it’s all just too much, and things still have to get done, you have to just get in the boat! This is not a daily way to live but we all have these times of crisis where we go into survival mode.
Kathi and Overwhelmed co-author, Cheri Gregory discuss tips to help you get through when you have no choice but to kick into survival mode. When you have to narrow your focus and just “Get on the boat” you need permission, strategy and care for yourself! Take the time to listen in and be ready to tackle that next survival mode moment.
From the ends of the earth, I cry to you for help when my heart is overwhelmed. Lead me to the towering rock of safety, for you are my safe refuge, a fortress where my enemies cannot reach me.
Psalms 61:2-3 NLT
Building a team can be a game changer. Whether it is a family team, a volunteer team, a job team or your own business, learning how to lead and manage a team makes a huge difference. Building a team sets you free to work on the things that only YOU can do. We all need help and building a team provides the help you need in an organized fashion that builds up everyone involved in the team.
Kathi and Overwhelm co-author, Cheri Gregory discuss 4 way to build your team.
- Reciprocal Help – What is overwhelming to you is not overwhelm for someone else. When you trade your talents, everyone uses their talents.
- Interns – Offering training and other perks in return for work is a win/win for all involved if you have the right person in the position. Your kids can be considered interns. You are training them to not need you! You want them to be able to take care of themselves.
- Paid Help – Everyone says they can’t afford paid help but it can actually save you money. It frees you up to work on the most important things. Paid help can be a babysitter, housecleaner, virtual assistant or groundskeeper, etc.
- Cooperative Help – Divide the work. It can be divided between family members, partners, etc.
Listen in and learn how building a team has helped Kathi and Cheri overcome the overwhelm of running a business.