10 Things to Say or Text to Your Husband When Marriage is Hard

So often, when money is tight, nerves are strained, and everyone is just so tired, it’s easy to wait for your husband to make the first move. But sometimes, we have to lay down our right to be right.

Sometimes, we need to look at not just the situation, but the relationship, and see what the right thing is to do. Usually, when one of us lays down our “right to be right” great things can happen in our relationships.10-Things-to-Say-or-Text-to-Your-Husband

So pick one. I’m not asking you to lie. There is ONE on this list that you can say to your husband- fighting or now – and it will soften the hard lines that can develop between the two of you.

If you’re really in a tough spot, try texting it to him. It’s amazing what a well timed text can do for your relationship.

  1.  “What do you need from me right now?”
  2.  “How can I help you take some of the burden off today?”
  3.  “I’m sorry.”
  4.  “Thank you for_____________”
  5.  “I’m proud of you because________________”
  6.  “Our kids are lucky to have a dad like you.”
  7.  “Please forgive me.”
  8.  “I love you because___________”
  9.  “I’m going to make more of an effort to____________”
  10. Thank you for being someone I can respect.

Tell me in the comments which one you said to your husband, or suggest one of your own. One random commenter will will a copy of Praying God’s Word for Your Husband.

 

Last week’s winner was Danielle!

I Need Some Help Here! Launch Party Giveaways

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Welcome to the I Need Some Help Here! Launch Party

Over the next few weeks, we’ll be giving away one AMAZING giveaway every single week.

I Need Some Help Here COVERI’m so excited to be able to share our stories of struggles and successes in this book. It’s been a long time coming for me and the rest of the “Bad Moms Club” but after a lot of laughter prayers, tears and love it is finally ready to launch and I couldn’t be more thrilled to share it with you!

I just spoke for a group of moms where one of the mentor moms asked me where I got the ideas for my books. My response, “I usually write out of my own weakness. My next book is all about how we as moms can feel that we are not good enough as parents and how to rely on God in those weak times.”
The mentor mom replied, “Oh, I never felt inadequate as a mom.”

This book? It’s not for her.

My hope with I Need Some Help Here! Hope for When Your Kids Don’t Go According to Plan is that every mom who thought that her parenting journey would be different, who thought that if she just tried her hardest, her kids would fall into place.

This book is for all of us who have done our best, but our kids — whom we love and adore — are not necessarily on the path we would have chosen for them.

If you have doubts as a mom, join me. We want you to assure the moms that you influence, that you speak to through your blog and via social media, that they are normal. They are OK. They are cherished. And while we try with all our might to do the best we can with our kids, ultimately, they belong to God. And that is the best place for them to be.

As a thank you for all of your love and support with this launch we will be giving away one super fun mom approved prize each week!!

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Things We Need Some Help With (if you are willing! We would be so grateful if you can share some hope with a friend!):

1. Order a copy of I Need Some Help Here!  

When you order, be sure to download your FREE Surviving Summer eBook . This eBook that will save you in the summer is only available for a limited time so download and share with your friends while there is still time.

2. Share it with family, friends, coworkers and followers on social media. Choose the platform of your choice:

Option #1: Post on Facebook:
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Option #2: Post on Pinterest.
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Option #3: Post on Twitter.
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Option #4: Post About the Book on Your Blog
When you post about I Need Some Help Here! just send us an email at bronwyn@kathilipp.com with the link to your blog. You’ll then be entered to win one of the weekly prizes!

3. THEN JUST FILL IN THE FORM BELOW TO BE ENTERED FOR THIS WEEK’S PRIZE! You don’t need to do any of the above but we know you’re kind of amazing and will want to give another mom some hope!)

If the form doesn’t show up, you can use the online version.

Thanks for your willingness to bring hope to a world of women who desperately need it. Check back for a new AMAZING mom-approved give away each week!


Surviving Summer Vacation- Get it for FREE before it’s too late! (And would you share it so your friends can have the best summer ever?)

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The release of my new book, I Need Some Help Here! Hope for When Your Kids Don’t Go According to Plan, is just a few weeks away! And to get ready, I have a few great FREE resources to get you ready for summer with your kids.

The first of these resources is my new eBook, Surviving Summer Vacation, Plans and Prayers for a Mom’s Sanity, and for a limited time it is available as a free PDF download. But you have to hurry to get it for free because once it is released on Amazon, I’m no longer in charge of the price!

And could I ask you a favor? Would you be willing to share it via Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter or your blog?

To get the Free download follow the steps below:

 

Share it with family, friends, coworkers and followers on social media. Choose the platform of your choice:

Option #1: Post on Facebook:

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Option #2: Post on Pinterest.

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Option #3: Post on Twitter.

Post about Surviving Summer Vacation on Twitter. Click here to retweet this tweet on Twitter.

Option #4: Post About the Book on Your Blog.

If you have a blog, you can write a post about Surviving Summer Vacation. The first 20 people to write about the eBook on their blog AND send us the link will receive a copy of my upcoming book,  I Need Some Help Here! Hope for When Your Kids Don’t Go According to Plan being released on June 6. Just email the link to your blog post to bronwyn@kathilipp.com.

To Download your free book, Click here and fill out the form – it’s that easy!

Help an Imperfect Mom…

Do you have a blog? Just love Facebook or are a Twitter fiend? Would you like to be on our launch team for my latest book “I Need Some Help Here!” Hope for When Your Kids Don’t Go According to Plan.

All you need is at least one kid and a less than perfect parenting record. Qualify? Click on the link to apply!

I just spoke for a group of moms where one of the mentor moms asked me where I got the ideas for my books. My response, “I usually write Lipp_10_2Cout of my own weakness. My next book is all about how we as moms can feel that we are not good enough as parents and how to rely on God in those weak times.”

The mentor mom replied, “Oh, I never felt inadequate as a mom.”

This book? It’s not for her.

My hope with I Need Some Help Here – Hope for When Your Kids Don’t Go According to Plan is that every mom who thought that her parenting journey would be different. Who thought that if she just tried her hardest, her kids would fall into place.

This book is for all of us who have done our best, but our kids — whom we love and adore — are not necessarily on the path we would have chosen for them.

If you have doubts as a mom, join me. We want you to assure the moms that you influence, that you speak to through your blog and via social media, that they are normal. They are OK. They are cherished.

And while we try with all our might to do the best we can with our kids, ultimately, they belong to God. And that is the best place for them to be.

Thanks for your willingness to bring hope to a world of women who desperately need it.

Click below to find out more!

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Ten Ways to Connect with Your Kids Outside

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Spending time outside does not have to just be camping, as much fun as that is, but there are many ways to get the kids outside in the fresh air while spending quality time connecting with your children. Ones that don’t include going to the bathroom in the forest.

Ten Ways to Get Outside and Connect

1. Go for a treasure hunt in your neighborhood. Here’s a short list of things for your kid to look for: a leaf bigger than their hand, a rock smaller than their little toe, and something they can recycle.  You can also have them make up the list to keep them interested.

2. Tape a large piece of butcher paper to your fence or outside wall and paint a mural.

3. Sleep outside.

4. Go fishing.

5. Jump rope on a date with your child.

6. Watch a sunset while having a picnic dinner.

7. Wash the car together.

8. String lights in your backyard.

9. Run through the sprinklers.

10. Play cards outside (but not on  windy day).

 

The biggest thing to remember is to prepare for any event that you do.  This means everything from planning on what you are going to eat on your picnic to being dressed warmly enough in case it gets windy. Encourage each child to find something in the activity that they connect with. For the expressive child, it might be the beautiful colors. For the athletic child, it might be games you play while running in the sprinkler.  Try to connect with each child no matter what way you choose.

How about you?  How do you get your kids outside? What are some fun ways you connect with them while outside?  Tell me in the comments and you will have a chance to win my book all about connecting called 21 Ways to Connect with Your kids.

 

15 Things You can Say to Encourage Your Kid Right Now

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Loving your husband will go along way to make a child feel loved and encouraged. And doing things for your child is a great way to connect with them. But with today’s busy schedules, it is not easy to do special things for the kids all of the time.

We think that saying things should be easier, but

using our words to fill the heart is one way that us mamas think we do, but sometimes forget.

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This list will take you to the end of March with a variety of things that you can say to your child to encourage and connect with them.

 

15 Things you can say to encourage your kids right now:

1. I am so glad that Jesus trusted me with you.

2. Please forgive me.

3. I’m proud of you.

4. You are fun to be with.

5. You make me laugh.

6. You are an important part of His story.

7. God’s love for you will never change.

8. I love spending time with you.

9. You are the est gift I ever received.

10. You are a perfect fit for our family.

11. You make me happy.

12. I love to watch you play.

13. I don’t care what we do today as long as I can be with you.

14. I will never stop loving you.

15. God created you exactly how he wanted you.

Say one of these every day for the rest of the month and you will be filling the love tanks of your children and sharing the hope and love of Jesus through you.

What is one encouraging thing you would add to the list?

 

How to Go from being an Ordinary Mom to A Legacy Maker

How to go from Ordinary Mom to a Legacy Maker

 

Ahem…. Well, it happened. My 10-month-old granddaughter kicked my butt.

Yep, this new grandma found herself struggling with a diaper that resembled the aftermath of an atomic blast. Residue, aka baby poo, squirted forth in all directions as squiggling arms and legs that appeared to be practicing infant calisthenics, landed in said residue. I quickly understood that now the small child needed a bath, a new pile of laundry emerged and I spied something that didn’t belong under my fingernails. Eeek! Finishing the cleanup I realized that the baby AND grandma needed a bottle and a nap.

My son, daughter-in-law and granddaughter, Elise, moved into our home this past week. They are relocating from another state. I thought handling a baby would be a piece of cake after all; I already raised two kids to adulthood. I couldn’t have forgotten that much, or did I?

Well thankfully the baby mama arrived upon said disaster and gave me some gentle teaching with empathy and grace. And a week later, I’m equipped to withstand any diaper that may come my way. *grin*

Even as a grandmother I can learn a lot from a young mom. And younger moms can likely learn a lot from an out of practice Grandma.

I’m convinced that the body of Christ is moving into a new awareness of God’s Presence. And in this next move of God we will see a joining of the generations like never before. The young, old, and in-between will rise to bring God’s purposes and His Kingdom to earth (Matthew 6:9-13).

This is a season in the body where we will learn and place great value the voices of young and old. And just like I had to relearn to diaper a baby there are some timeless experiences I can pass to my daughter-in-law.

As I look back on a lifetime of raising children, if I could tell every mother just one thing I it would be this:

It’s worth it!

It’s worth the years and tears you pour into your little ones. On days when there is poop in the tub, the dog barfed on the carpet, the laundry towers in the hall and little ones cry at your feet. And when no one sees all you sacrifice for your family and a greatly needed pat on the back does not come, it’s still worth it.

Every bit of effort of love, correction, instruction, laughter, fun, and the time you pour into little lives, it is worth it. It is building the character and love into another human being. And your children will step into adulthood fully equipped with faith, love, purpose, and passion.

Mom, You are a legacy maker.

One more thing I would share with every mother is to remember when you begin to question yourself and your parenting ability, I want you to be assured that God is standing by your side, day after day. He is whispering hope into your soul. Life into your tired eyes. Joy into the mundane and love into your heart. Let His voice assure, “You are more than enough.”

When writing my parenting book I came to a place one day where I was stuck. During this frustrating writer’s block, I ask God, “God, what do you want to tell every mother.” Well God was just waiting for me to ask. And immediately a string of words began to go through my head. It’s His personal letter to every mother. Below is a link to download this letter. I pray you will print it out and read in moments of doubt, fatigue, and fear. I’m encouraged to tears of joy each time I read it. I pray you will be too.

God is standing right next to you Mom. He is walking you through to your highest and holy calling, Motherhood.

Beloved Mother

Note Alone Cover ArtFor a chance to win a copy of Lynn’s book Not Alone share what advice has impacted you the most on being the mother God has called you to be or who has been your greatest mentor in mothering. We are giving away TWO copies. You have until MONDAY, March 17 to enter. You can also buy it on Amazon today.

 

 

profile for TypepadLynn Donovan is a speaker, author, and an ordinary woman who shares with audiences her everyday adventures of walking in the Presence of God. Her delight is igniting women’s hearts with Holy Spirit fire, inspiring wives and mothers to step fully into their high and holy calling of marriage and motherhood with joy, laughter and God’s favor. She has been featured guest on the 700 Club Interactive, Focus on the Family, Dr. James Dobson’s FamilyTalk and FamilyLife Today. She coauthored the award winning book, Winning Him Without Words and also Not Alone, Trusting God to Help You Raise Godly Kids In a Spiritually Mismatched Marriage. She has a son and a daughter and a granddaughter. She lives with her husband in Temecula, California. Visit Lynn online at MismatchedAndThriving.com.

No Miss America Here

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I met my husband James in grad school where strangely enough, I studied alongside other students who had been Miss Oregon, Miss California, and even a future Miss America.

Let’s face it. We women are prone to comparisons. When I think about those beauty pageant winners, sometimes I don’t even feel like Miss Cul-de-Sac.  I don’t think I could win a contest in housekeeping, beauty, or culinary arts. But you know what?  Those titles don’t really matter.

After all, my dear husband didn’t pick a Miss (insert amazing category here).  He picked me.  For better or for worse.  For dress-up date nights and sweatpants mom days.

And guess what?  If you are married, your husband picked you too.  Over all the other girls in the world, he chose you.  (Hang on single ladies, your prince may be on his way too)

Instead of hanging your head down because your make-up isn’t perfect or you need a tummy tuck, put a smile on your face and your best foot forward.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.  That’s what it proclaims in Psalm 119.  But I’m afraid many of us believe the opposite.  We fear that we are NOT fearfully and wonderful made.  If we allow it to, physical shortcomings can sabotage our ability to be happy in our own skin.

We all come pre-packaged with strength and weaknesses.  Don’t fall into the comparison trap which quickly diminishes the wonderful gifts you offer to the world.  Let go of your unrealistic expectations of “perfect” and appreciate what you have.  Accentuate your strengths!

Listen to what God is asking you to do in your marriage, not what popular culture dictates you should do.  You are beautiful in God’s sight and you know what?  Your husband thinks you’re beautiful too.  That’s why he chose you.

So tell me in the comments below the amazing qualities you have the your husband loves and chose YOU for. One reader will be chosen to win a copy of Arlene’s book 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife. If you can’t wait to read it you can buy it on Amazon now.

You have until Monday, March 10 to enter.

Arlene Pellicane 600x600jpg????????Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife. 

She and her husband James live in Southern California with their three children. 

You can visit her website to Take the Quiz: Are You a Happy Wife? 

 

 

 

The 4 Day Love Challenge – Day 2: Love Him with Stuff

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Oh this week.

This week drives me nuts.

We all get to determine how much our partner loves us by the size of the gift and whether the gesture of love went viral on YouTube. Yuck.

We don’t need over the top. I think we just need a little something special for our men, presented in a slightly special way.

I wrote about this in my book The Marriage Project:

A tree ran into my car.

Yes, you read that sentence correctly.

I am blessed to live in Northern California where we bundle up in our winter woolens if there is a slight chill in the air, and the only snow we see is when someone forgets to use their Head and Shoulders shampoo.

So it was out of the ordinary when the storm rolled through town. Power outages were reported all over the city, fender benders littered the highways, and the Starbucks on our corner was closed.

Obviously, this was a desperate situation.

When I got home from my morning speaking engagement, I parked my van and ran inside, desperate to warm up and dry out.

I went upstairs to our bedroom, where my husband was working at his desk. Not five minutes after I got changed into dry clothes, Roger and I heard a big crack and looked out in horror and amazement as our giant oak tree decided to take up residence on top of my car.

All we could do was watch, laugh, and thank God that no one was in the car at the time.

Since then, I’ve been cruising around town in a series of rental cars until my van is fully functioning again. I’ve tried out hybrids and subcompacts, 4-runners and sedans.

Until yesterday. Yesterday, the rental agency ran out of the teeny-tiny cars I was renting to save money. They asked me if, for a few dollars more, I would like an upgrade to a nicer car that was available right away…a current model black Mercedes-Benz E-Class.

Um…OK.

I knew, being in possession of that car, I had to turn our ho-hum, stay-at-home night into an out-on-the-town date night. You wouldn’t want an automobile like that going to waste, now would you?

Roger and I used a gift card to get a couple of lattes at a Starbucks drive-thru, and then took a drive into the mountains, sipping our drinks and enjoying the scenery and the company. A perfect date—all for the small price of an upgraded rental car.

There was just something so fun and adventurous about that car that it turned that silly little latte into a memory that will last us a lifetime.

So this week, I want you to get him a little something, but give it to him in a special way.

Here are some ideas for a little something (all of these can be had for under $5):

  • His favorite candy bar (that he doesn’t have to share with you.)
  • A magazine that he loves but is too cheap to subscribe to.
  • His favorite sports drink.
  • 5 packs of his favorite gum.
  • His favorite Starbucks drink delivered to work.
  • A frozen yogurt.
  • A guy-flick movie rental.
  • Baking him his favorite chocolate chip cookies.
  • A small bottle of manly scented lotion with the promise of a back rub.
  • $5 iTunes gift card (or google play for our Windows guys.)
  • A video game rental.
  • $5 in quarters for the local arcade.
  • A new ringtone.

OK – now to give it to him in a special way. You could…

  • Leave it on the dashboard of his truck
  • Hide it in his computer bag
  • Tie it to the dog (as long as it’s not edible…)
  • Have one of your kids deliver it
  • Put it on his pillow
  • Have Amazon send it to his office

What are you going to get him – and how are you going to give it to him? Share your ideas in the comments and you will be entered to win a copy of Praying God’s Word for Your Husband.

GO….


4 Day Love Challenge – Day 1 Love Him with WORDS

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You blew me away with your response to this Challenge. I don’t think we’ve ever received so many YES! responses. Way to go loving your man!!!

Your first challenge is simple. All I want you to do is say something nice to your husband. That’s it. Really.

Because the truth is:
Tweet: often we wives have the power to change the way our husbands walk through the world by choosing the words we speak to them @kathilipp .

How you do it is up to you. Here are a few ideas:

  • Say it to him
  • Text it to him
  • Put it on a Post-it Note in his truck
  • Call him
  • Whisper it to him
  • Put it in a card in his computer case
  • Write it in lipstick on the bathroom mirror

Have you got your great idea of how you’re going to say it? Great. Now what to say…

Here are some ideas. These are from The Husband Project: 21 Post-it Note Sized Encouragements

And remember, tell me in the comments what you did (or are planning to do) and you will be entered to win a copy of The Husband Project! (And post a picture to my Facebook Page so I can share your love with the world!)