Eps #277 Loving My Actual Christmas with Alexandra Kuykendall

Eps #277 Loving My Actual Christmas with Alexandra Kuykendall

Loving Christmas

Loving Christmas just seems like an obvious thing but when we get right down to it, Christmas can be a HUGE stressor. Are you trapped in your Christmas traditions with seemingly no way out? Listen in as Author/Speaker Host Kathi Lipp discusses decluttering our idea of Christmas with Author Alex Kuykendall and her new book: “Loving My Actual Christmas”. Alex shares how to manage our expectations without them managing us and listening in on other’s expectations, too. Reboot your Christmas this year – adjust the traditions but keep what is important to you and relish the experience of Christmas.

***Bonus***
Answer this question in the comments below to be entered to receive 1 of 3 copies of “Loving My Actual Christmas”: If you could change one thing about your Christmas celebration this year, what would it be?

Marriage Pop Up: Brag on your man today!

Marriage Pop Up: Brag on your man today!

What do others hear you say about your man? Is it positive, negative, embarrassing? Today start a pattern of saying something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you tell him what you said, and to whom. Only you have the bragging rights to your man, no one else knows him better!

As cliché as it may sound, our husbands want to be our heroes. More than they want to know that we love them, they want to know that we respect them. They need to know that they’re never the butt of our jokes, that they’re the go-to-guy in every story we tell.

Make an opportunity today to brag on your husband to someone else. It doesn’t matter if it’s one of your friends or one of his; let that somebody know how blessed you are to be married to your guy.

Some key phrases you may want to put on index cards to help you remember:

  • “I feel so lucky to have a man who knows how to do his own laundry.”
  • “You know when I knew that my husband really loved me? When he could remember my order at Starbucks.”
  • “I just love the way he is with our kids.”
  • “He makes the best lasagna on the planet.”

Steering the Ship

A small rudder on a huge ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets a course in the face of the strongest winds. A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it  (James 3: 3-4 The Message). 

As wives, we are often the ship’s captain, while our husbands are that huge ship. Words spoken in encouragement and love can go a long way to building our men up. But the opposite is true as well.  There is nothing that can determine the direction of our husband’s day quicker than the words that are spoken to him in the morning

Sometimes as wives, we forget the role we play in our husband’s lives. We all remember that great line from My Big Fat Greek Wedding, spoken by Toula’s mom, “The man may be the head of the household, but the woman is the neck. She tells him which way to turn.”

The words we use will either bring him up or tear him down. They will make him rush to get home to us or procrastinate  at work, be willing to help cheerfully around the house or look for reason to leave and be with his buddies.

While your greatest need may be for your husband to tell you that he loves you, most guys are programmed differently. He wants, at his very core, to know that you respect him. He wants to know that you are proud of him and that he is the one you would choose again if given the chance.

This goes a long way to solidifying you as a team, as well. There’s no way that anyone in my family would ever say a word against my husband. They know that I’m on his side, and it’s a gossip-free zone around me (unless the gossip is about how great he is).

Spend sometime brainstorming about all the great things your husband does, how amazing he is and so on. This will help give you the words to speak to others, it may even make you find new ways you love your man and the best part it could put you in the mood to surprise your man in the bedroom as soon as he gets home!