Chp. 13: Shower Your Kids With Grace

Chp. 13: Shower Your Kids With Grace

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Welcome to The Mom Project. For the next few weeks, we’ll be launching my book The Mom Project by hosting several mom friends who have tried it out for themselves. They read the book, completed a project from the book with their kids, and wrote all about it. And these are real moms. Busy moms. Unsure-of-themselves moms. Single moms. Special needs moms. Working moms. Stay-at-home moms. They do the hard working of mommyhood every day, and have found fun ways to connect with their kids in the simple activities found in The Mom Project. Read on to hear their experience:

My daughter Anya has crossed that mysterious threshold, called middle school. I refer to it as the tween twilight zone. I had taken for granted the innocence of elementary school, the fairy forts being built in the backyard and listening to the endless stories of her class fishing with bamboo sticks in the creek. I was completely unprepared for sixth grade and the change it would bring to our home! Anya on the other hand is living her best tween life with one small exception…missing homework. I am certain my daughter completes her homework, because I have the unfortunate experience of wracking my brain trying to help her figure out what the slope of xy is if y is -4! Did I mention my strong disdain for algebra? Oh, and we haven’t even reached algebra this is pre-algebra! Since, she excelled in math in fifth grade she was placed in pre-algebra two levels higher than the average sixth grade math course, which has caused somewhat of a rift in our relationship!

Some of our discord is my fault. I have a new- found obsession with the online grading system that allows me to check the status of homework and grades at any time of the day…which I do…multiple times. I don’t check because I’m in training to be a tiger mom. I check because first, I’m perplexed that work is missing and second, I’m concerned. I never had issues with her handing in homework. I’m fully aware that Anya is responsible for her grades, but my momma heart can’t help to be a bit worried.

I decided to lower my blood pressure and put a stop to my new found unhealthy habit of visiting RemWeb. It was working, until one evening when she asked me to check if her math test was recorded. I eagerly agreed, after all my resistance was wearing weak! I put in the password, pulled up pre-algebra and there it was…a D, and to make matters worse, the overall grade was a D-. If she didn’t understand the material that’s one thing, but just not handing work in, well that’s another.

My eyes scanned the grades and it was apparent that she was in real trouble and partly because of missing work! I was ready to lay down the hammer, then I saw her eyes filling up with tears. I knew that anything I said in the heat of frustration would only result in a big blow out. Instead I gave her a goodnight kiss decided it was time to dive into the, “Mom Project.” I needed help!

The project, “Shower Your Kids with Grace,” immediately caught my attention. It was time to try a different angle, one that was completely opposite of what I felt like doing, which was dropping the gauntlet. After reading the project, I knew the best lesson wasn’t going to be a lecture, but a good dose of grace.

The next morning, I let Anya sleep in for a bit and woke her up with her favorite homemade waffle breakfast with whip cream and blackberries. She looked at me quizzically and cautiously. I told her we were taking the day off and having a mother daughter day in Washington, DC. She loves photography, so I planned a relaxing day of visiting her favorite spots to let her take photos. It would be a day free of grades, judgment or blame. We hopped on the metro and began the day in our Nation’s Capital. Watching Anya so care free, doing cart wheels on the National Mall, practicing her photography skills at the Botanical Gardens, and grabbing a sweet treat at Georgetown Cupcakes was a perfect way to shower her with the grace she needed.

While hanging out at the National Gallery’s Sculpture Garden, Anya said, “Thanks, mom. This has been the best day,” and she opened up about some feelings and even fears that I had no idea about. After our excursion, without my prompting Anya asked me to drop her at school at 7:30 am to get tutoring in pre-algebra. She handed in the missing work and pulled her grade up to a C. I have no doubt that day of grace made a difference for the both of us.

I learned that a little bit of grace goes a long way. This project made me think of my too many to count colossal screw ups and the grace upon grace Jesus so graciously gave me. Jesus has loved me unconditionally through every stage and I had to make sure that I was showing that same grace and love to Anya as she goes through her many stages, even the twilight teen years.

If you want to try this project, find ways to incorporate simple and spontaneous grace in your family’s life to create a home that emphasizes your love for them in all circumstances. Maybe show up at school to take them out to an impromptu lunch, give them a free pass on chores for an evening, or simply don’t dole out a much-deserved consequence as a way of showing grace. Sewing grace into the fabric of our homes create kids that know how to accept grace, but also freely give it to others as well. Who couldn’t stand a little more grace in their day?

Ready for your chance to win a copy of The Mom Project? To be entered into the drawing, just comment on this post and you’ll be entered to win. *Only US readers are eligible to receive the free book.

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This is written by Chere Williams, a passionate single mother who encourages women to make God their partner in their single parenting journey through her blog, “A Single Christian Mom’s Advice on Making Life Easier” Read an excerpt of her upcoming e-book,  “15 Tips on Avoiding Single Mom Burnout.” Click here for a free download.

Episode #248: Clutter Free Travel

Episode #248: Clutter Free Travel

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Kathi and Co-host Erin MacPherson discuss their summer travel plans and how to travel clutter free.  Both are taking big trips and need to pack lightly.

Kathi is taking a month sabbatical in celebration of her 50th birthday.  She plans to spend 10 days at home and 20 days traveling with lots of R & R (Rest and Roger).

Erin is heading on a road trip with her husband, children, and parents in one SUV.  They will be traveling to Florida and then up the eastern coast through Georgia, South Carolina, then across to the Great Smokey Mountains and then to Nashville and back home.

Clutter Free Tips

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Kathi’s Suitcase!

They discuss packing tips, using ebags (packing cubes), and how to find great places to stay that feel like home.

If just one or two people are traveling, Kathi recommends AirBnB.

If you have a family and need more room, Erin recommends VRBO.   Both places give you the comforts of home (kitchen, laundry, mores space, etc.).

Listen in to learn how to plan your own clutter free travel.

Episode #227 – Holiday Travel Tips with Kathi and Roger

Episode #227 – Holiday Travel Tips with Kathi and Roger

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Recorded on the road in a recent trip across the country, Kathi and Roger share there favorite travel tips. Traveling is usually stressful enough and the holidays really ramp up that stress level.  Packing the right things and having the right tools can save a ton of headaches (and money!) Kathi and Roger Lipp discuss tips for everything from how many pairs of shoes you need to pack to what to stash in your carry-on to your tech travel needs.

As a couple traveling several times every month, they have the packing down to a science.  Their tips are sure to help you as you pack for your next trip.

Kathi’s Best Tips

• Only pack two pairs of shoes (and wear one on the plane): Walking shoes, flats and heels. Plan all your clothes around those three pairs of shoes.
• All your clothes should go together and should be based around a color or two. My last trip everything was brown and turquoise. Everything “went” with everything else.
• Carry Woolite packets for quick loads of laundry in your hotel sink.
• If you have access to a washing machine, carry a few Tide Pods in a travel soap case.
• If you check a bag, throw a pair of underwear in your carry on. You can face anything (even lost luggage,) with a clean pair of underwear.
• A Contigo cup will keep your coffee warm, and keep you from spilling hot liquid all over yourself on the plane.
• Don’t buy travel sized items (the price per ounce is obscene.) Refill travel size bottles.
• Hoard the travel size toothpaste you get from your dentist. (And the ones your kids get.)
• If you forget something when you travel, ask the front desk of your hotel. They often have toothbrushes, toothpaste, razors, etc.
• Carry long USB cords for inconvenient plugs in hotels.
• Carry a multi-USB plug for charging on the go.
• Buy snacks at your local grocery store instead of at the airport or hotels. The prices are a fraction at home.
• Bring lots of Ziploc bags.

Podcast Extras

Roger and Kathi mentioned many items that are must have’s when they travel. For more info on each, simply click. Links take you to Amazon.com and are affiliate links.

 Pack-it-Flat Toiletry Kit

Contigo Cups

Waze: Free Community-based Mapping, Traffic & Navigation App

 5ft Nylon Braided Tangle Free Micro USB Cable Cord

Dual USB Travel Wall Charger

The Curly Co. Collapsible Hair Diffuser

Woolite Travel Detergent Packets

2-in-1 Mobile Phone Car Mount, Holder

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If we forgot any important travel tips or you have advice for packing and traveling,  please leave your comments below so we can include them in a future podcast.  Everyone that leaves a comment will be entered into a drawing for Kathi’s book, The Get Yourself Organized Project.

Recreation Recipe of the Week – Grilled Chicken over Marinaded Salad

Recreation Recipe of the Week – Grilled Chicken over Marinaded Salad

Grilled Chicken over Marinaded Salad

This is a beautiful picture taken at our very yummy dinner at Treebones this weekend. Here is our recreation”

* 1 tbsp. lemon juice
* 2 tsp olive oil
* Coarse salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
* 2-3 cups of cherry tomatoes, sliced
* 1 cup of chopped cucumber and peeled
* ¼ cup crumbled feta cheese

* 2 tbsp of finely chopped green onions
* 1 tbsp finely chopped fresh oregano
* 1 bag mixed spring salad
* sliced olives (optional)
* sliced red onion (optional)
* boneless chicken breast with skin on
* 1/4 cup olive oil
* dried rosemary and salt to taste

Combine lemon juice, olive oil, salt and pepper.

Toss dressing with tomatoes, cucumber, feta, onions, olives, oregano and spring salad

Meanwhile, grill chicken with olive oil, salt and rosemary

Dribble plates with balsamic vinegar. Put salad/veggie mixture on plates and top with chicken. Serve with warm rosemary bread.

The Way Camping Should Be…

The Way Camping Should Be…

I’m taking the day off blogging because Roger and I will be camping.

Well, at least my version of camping.

We are going to be in Bug Sur on the California coast on Monday staying in a yurt.

A yurt is a tent with a hardwood floor, a sink, and a queen-sized bed topped with a handmade velvet quilt.

For those of you who have heard my camping story, you know that this is about as rustic as I want to get…

Oh, and if you’re worried that I am telling the world that I will be gone overnight and you think this is an invitation to burglars to come and rob our house. said house will be filled with assorted adult children and guarded by our killer attack dog:

“I’s guard d puppy fuds.”