Win today’s giveaway! Just tell us what you did (or are going to do!) for today’s Project by 7:00 PST on Wednesday and you will be entered into the drawing for today’s giveaway: The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage
Stormie Omartian’s bestselling books on prayer and marriage have touched millions of readers in a life–changing way. The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage helps husbands or wives pray to protect their relationship from 14 serious problems that can lead to unsatisfying marriages or even divorce. For those who are already struggling in these areas, this book will help them find healing and restoration.
Readers will learn how to pray about everything from
- communication breakdown to struggles with finances and raising children
- misplaced priorities to anger, unforgiveness, and sexual frustration
- pornography and infidelity to depression and addictions
No stranger to struggles in her 34 years of marriage, Stormie looks at these topics and more in the straightforward, hopeful manner readers have come to trust. As always, readers will find Bible verses and personal prayers they can use as powerful resources to help their marriages last a lifetime.
So leave your comment below to be entered to win!
While this is the first week of our project, if you have friends who want to join in, let them know that they can jump in any time. You don’t need to have The Husband Project book in order to participate, but you definitely will get more out of this(and be able to plan better) if you read along. You can order it on Amazon or for a special price on my website.
And our winner of yesterday’s giveaway Becoming the Woman of His Dreams is Crystal A! Please e-mail my assistant Kimberly at firstname.lastname@example.org and she will put it in the mail!!!
You da’ Man
Spreading Great Gossip About Your Guy
Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you tell him what you said, and to whom.
As cliché as it may sound, our husbands want to be our heroes. More than they want to know that we love them, they want to know that we respect them. They need to know that they’re never the butt of our jokes, that they’re the go-to-guy in every story we tell.
Make an opportunity today to brag on your husband to someone else. It doesn’t matter if it’s one of your friends or one of his; let that somebody know how blessed you are to be married to your guy.
Some key phrases you may want to put on index cards to help you remember:
· “I feel so lucky to have a man who knows how to do his own laundry.”
· “You know when I knew that my husband really loved me? When he could remember my order at Starbucks.”
· “I just love the way he is with our kids.”
· “He makes the best lasagna on the planet.”
While your greatest need may be for your husband to tell you that he loves you, most guys are programmed differently. He wants, at his very core, to know that you respect him. He wants to know that you are proud of him and that he is the one you would choose again if given the chance.
This goes a long way to solidifying you as a team, as well. There’s no way that anyone in my family would ever say a word against my husband. They know that I’m on his side, and it’s a gossip-free zone around me (unless the gossip is about how great he is).
Prayer for Today
Dear God, let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your sight.
Who are the important people in your husband’s life? Your kids, his parents, his friends? Be intentional about who you chat with when you brag on him – it’s almost as important as actually doing it.
Having a hard time coming up with something? I still brag on my guy for things he did years ago. He loves when I tell the story of how brilliantly he proposed (there were waterfalls and stuffed portabella mushrooms involved…).
Here are some other areas to think about when crafting your brag:
· His parenting skills
· His patience level
· The way he treats your mom
· His culinary ability
· His job
· His loyalty to you
“This last Valentine’s Day my husband, Guy, did wonderful things for our children and for me. I had the opportunity to brag about these things to my sister on my cell phone with my husband right there! If you are wondering what he did, he made up a treasure hunt for each of our 3 children. They each had 3 clues before they got their prize and he made each of the clues rhyme! The kids absolutely LOVED it and I was very impressed as well. For myself, I have mother/daughter date with my eldest daughter every Thursday night and we didn’t get home until about 9:30pm. He had a bunch of candles lit in our bedroom, wonderful coupons for me to use for time away from the kids, not to make dinner, and more. There was also champagne, Barry White playing on the CD and chocolates! The BEST Valentine’s Day ever!”
“I like this project. I made a decision long ago (before I was even married oddly enough) to try to not to say negative things about my husband to other people. I have heard lots of wives complain about their husbands and I realized that it not only makes the person talking feel bad (continuing to think about the negative), but it also makes the listener feel bad (caught in between and NEVER knowing the right thing to say). I admit it is not easy and I do have moments when all I want to do is vent, but I really try hard to stick to the ‘if you don’t have something nice to say…’ rule.”
“The bragging was easy for me!!! It just so happen that I had my 2 year olds b-day party that day…Boy oh boy did everyone there get an earful of what a big help my husband was for, helping my with the party…”
“Okay, so I kinda cheated on this one. We were talking about this project at MOPS so I said to the ladies at my table, “Just so ya know, my husband is awesome!” So it was a little contrived, but I totally meant it. I’ll keep working at this “assignment” though. I want to make a habit of saying nice things about my husband in a more natural way.”
“I, too, try not to disparage my husband in front of other people (or to him for that matter) but I think I had gotten lazy about talking him up! He is a fabulous man and this week I made a point to let people know. My sweet hubby was a little embarrassed but he beamed when I told him about it! It feels great to focus on his strong points – it reminds me why I love him even more now than when I married him!”
She and her husband Roger are the parents of four young adults in San Jose, CA. When she’s not dating her husband or hanging out with her puggle Jake, Kathi is speaking at retreats, conferences and women’s events across the US.