Find another area of your life that you can cut back, do less well, or give up on altogether – either permanently or just for the duration of The Me Project – in order to give you the time and space to pursue your goal.
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”
One of the things that I knew I wanted to do as a mom was to feed my kids fresh, healthy food. My kids were born in the early 90’s so words like “organic” and “locavore” were not part of this mom’s vocabulary. However, when my kids were still in diapers, I made my own baby food and read everything I could about feeding my kids healthy, fresh and nurturing food.
And then I went back to work.
While my standards hadn’t changed, my schedule had. I wanted to keep feeding my family incredibly healthy, fresh nurturing food. But I would come home after a long day, exhausted from meeting work needs, and realize that this Mother Hubbard’s cupboards were bare.
And then suddenly, the Golden Arches seemed like the healthiest option.
When someone suggested that I make meals on the weekend, freeze them, and then pull them out during the week to cook for dinner, initially I balked. I didn’t want to feed my family frozen food. No. I was going to cook healthy, fresh nurturing food.
And the vicious cycle of perfectionism, guilt and ordering food through a loud speaker continued.
It took a while, but I finally broke down and gave freezer cooking a try. And I am here to testify, honey, it changed my life.
So now here I am, 14 years later, still spending a weekend every other month filling up my freezer with meals that my family really loves. Do I wish that I could just shop locally at farmer’s markets and then bring my bounty home and create organic meals every night for an appreciative family? Sometimes. But the reality is I have a healthy, nutritious meal on the table most nights. My kids are healthy and even sometimes, appreciative. Is it perfect? No. Is it better – oh yeah.
After giving up the idea of perfection when it came to dinner times, I was able to figure out the best reality for feeding my family. These silly frozen meals have kept me from stressing out, I have even written a booklet on freezer cooking, do seminars to women’s groups and at one point, had a meal swap with five other women. (We called ourselves Six Chicks Freeze and Fix.)
It is only at the point of giving up on our unrealistic dreams of perfection can we really discover what is best for our life and our situations. I think that most women I know have this in some area of our lives.
For the next three days, I’m going to ask you to do something that takes you aobut five minutes, and here’s my questions: Where’s that time going to come from? Is there something you can do less well to give yourself the extra five minutes?
I don’t want you to pack your already over-packed day with another thing on your to-do list. Tell me one thing you are going to take off your to-do list in today’s comments, and you will be entered into our drawing for Cindi McMenamin’s book, Woman on the Edge and another winner will get The Frozen Gourmet Cookbook.
And remember, everyone who comments this week get put into the drawing for the DORY AWARD!
She and her husband Roger are the parents of four young adults in San Jose, CA. When she’s not dating her husband or hanging out with her puggle Jake, Kathi is speaking at retreats, conferences and women’s events across the US.