Getting a Couple of People to Hold You Accountable
Find a couple of women to hold you accountable for your goal. It can be someone who lives close, or an internet or phone friend.
Every woman has done it. You get up early New Year’s morning. You write down your goals on a piece of paper. If you are really bold, you’ll post them on the fridge for the rest of your family to see. And that is where it ends. You have no one checking in with you, no one holding you accountable. Your husband certainly is not going to ask you, “Hey, it says here on your New Year’s resolutions that you are going to the gym five times a week. How’s it going?” No, he is not going to ask. He is smarter than that.
This is the point where a woman needs a couple of good, godly women in her life. These are the women who are assigned to ask The Project Manager (you) the tough questions and keep her going down the road God has set out for her.
You Goal Girl!
The waitress knows that we are in deep discussion so, instead of refilling our ceramic mugs, this time she just leaves the pot of coffee. She is used to this scene – the three of us friends talking, laughing until we have to “Shush!” each other, as well as stopping to pray along the way. We are the “Goal Girls” and this table is our monthly meeting spot.
The Goal Girls start six years ago when every area of my life was in transition. My marriage was falling apart and I found myself back in the job market to support myself and my kids. On top of all that, I needed to find a new place to live. I felt like everything was spinning out of control.
I knew that I also needed to makes some changes in other areas of my life. Spending time with God had become a faint memory for me. I wanted to reconnect in a real way, but I was having trouble being committed to my day-to-day relationship with Him.
I needed support that was more than a once-a-week Bible study. I needed people around me to love and guide me through this hurtful time in my life.
At the same time, my friend Vikki, a 30 year-old wife and mother, was just plain overwhelmed. With her two active kids, and another on the way, she was feeling the pressures of keeping it all together. In addition to taking care of her family, Vikki worked outside the home several nights a month, and was the women’s ministry leader at our growing church. The fast pace of Vikki’s life was threatening to swallow her up if she didn’t makes some changes immediately.
Another friend, Angela, young and vibrant at 34, had an even more desperate situation. Complicating her busy life caring for her two small girls, her health was in serious jeopardy and she knew that she had to take some radical steps including losing weight and exercising in order to start restoring herself physically so that she could lead a normal life.
All of us were longing for change. We wanted to live healthier lives, not just physically, but also emotionally and spiritually. Each of us needed help figuring out what God designed us to do, but we also needed a way of making sure that we stayed on track- someone to hold our feet to the fire.
I asked Angela and Vikki if they would be interested in trying an accountability group. I was honest and upfront,” I had no idea how it would work, but I am so frustrated and scared that I am willing to try just about anything. I guess we can just make it up as we go along?” Apparently, they were just as desperate and we decided to meet the next week.
That was eight years ago, and the effect of those meeting are still very present in my life.
Here is my question for you: Are there a couple of people that you can ask to support you along the way? This doesn’t mean that they stand over you with a ruler, beating your up if you don’t get your stuff done. You want a couple of cheerleaders who are going to keep you motivated.
In the comments, tell me who you love who you could ask to cheer you on. One or two names is all I ask. I want you to make this real, live step to making your dreams a reality.
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She and her husband Roger are the parents of four young adults in San Jose, CA. When she’s not dating her husband or hanging out with her puggle Jake, Kathi is speaking at retreats, conferences and women’s events across the US.