Who Are You Listening to?
Deciding What Goes into Your Brain
Today: When it comes to the goal you have set for yourself, is there one voice that is holding you back? Think long and hard about the messages that you are letting into your mind. Is there a negative person in your life that you need to have better boundaries with? Are you giving yourself bad messages? Take a step to create those boundaries around your goal today.
Tossing the 8-Tracks (Getting Rid of Old Tapes)
I have struggled with weight all of my life. I go up, I go down. It is nice to know that when I get to heaven I will have a perfect body, but for now, I still have to shop in the women’s section of any department store. (At least I know I’m a Queen – my underwear says so…)
For the most part, my friends and family are an incredible support to me and love me through my struggle. They lovingly hold me accountable when I am working hard at controlling my food and exercise, and gently encourage back to health when I am slacking off. I am blessed to be surrounded by such safe and sane people.
But of course, every group has that one person. You know who she is. She may call herself “a truth teller” or is just blunt beyond what is socially acceptable. Or maybe you just call her mean.
After I had my first baby, I was talking with a group of women and said offhandedly, “Yep, time to get back to the gym, I need to lose this baby weight,” (and then some.)
One of my relatives (her name has been withheld to protect the stupid,) looked at me and said, “You know, it’s going to be harder to lose the weight now that you had a baby.” I burned inside. Hurt and angry I thought to myself (but didn’t have the guts to say,) “Really?!? Oh thanks so much for sharing with me! I think you’ve missed your calling as a motivational speaker.” I would love to say that I just brushed that comment aside, but that baby I was pregnant with is now in college and I remember it like it was last week’s episode of Project Runway.
• “Really? You are trying out for choir? Don’t you have to be able to sing to be in choir?”
• “I thought you were smarter than that.” (Actually said to my husband by a co-worker.)
• “It might be easier to work out if you lost some weight.” (Really? This has to be the craziest statement in the English language.)
Isn’t it funny how we could have 98 people tell us that we look great, did a wonderful job on that report, our kids are great, and the painting we just finished is a-maz-ing, but if two people criticize us, those are the comments that stick to our soul.
Now that you are trying to do something outside of the box – follow God in a new or different direction, try something that you have never tried before, explore a dream or passion that you have tried to ignore, I can guarantee you that those negative words that you heard last week (or maybe in 1987) are going to come back to haunt you.
Tell us in the comments below if you are having to set boundaries in a negative relationship or change your own self talk to be God honoring. If you have a piece of advice on how to do either one let us know as well. You could win the book Prayers for Life
She and her husband Roger are the parents of four young adults in San Jose, CA. When she’s not dating her husband or hanging out with her puggle Jake, Kathi is speaking at retreats, conferences and women’s events across the US.