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There is more month than there is paycheck. I can’t keep up with the work — both inside the house and outside of it. My parents need me, my kids need me, and my husband needs me.
Throughout the day, I am reminded that there is never enough.
Enough money.
Enough time.
Enough me to go around.
And so often, it’s easy to put that burden on my husband – He doesn’t make enough money. He isn’t helping out enough with the house. He isn’t helping out enough with the family. Whether it’s silently, or in my attitude.
But when I’m lacking, it’s not up to my husband to meet my need. It’s totally up to God.
SCRIPTURE
And my God will meet
all your needs according
to the glorious riches
in Christ Jesus.
— Philippians 4:19
PRAYER FOR TODAY
God, I pray that I would always be reminded to put my burden where it belongs — squarely at your feet. You already know what I need for each day – you see around every corner.
I pray that I would come to my husband as a partner and helpmate in everything.
Tell me – what are you struggling with “enough” of: Time, money, energy, space? Tell me in the comments below.We are giving away a copy of Praying God’s Word for Your Husband to one of our commenters today, so join the conversation!
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Everyday is a struggle either to get out of bed, work around the house, or give my husband the attention he so deserves. We are on one income from disability. My husband is still waiting for an answer to his disability. With four kids and the fifth kid married. Its been a real challenge to keep food on the table and a roof over our head. I know Gods promises and have to keep reminding myself. And just when we think we are going to be on top of our bills again another bill or car problem pops up to where we can’t get ahead.
I’m struggling with the priorities in our family. Thank you for the reminder that I can take all my feelings to God.
More time, less physical health problems.
Partnership, Direction, Time, Honesty. I need honest answers to my questions – esp regarding financial matters & I get a lot of “I’ll make it happen” type answers instead. I appreciate the enthusiasm & the desire to get things done, but I would rather know where we actually are so that I can prioritize better. This happens in all facets of our relationship – not just finances – so it gets pretty frustrating because I have to guess & when I get it wrong, it makes him upset.
Cooperation. Motivation. Ambition. Partnership. I cannot decide if I am selfish in these needs or if my husband is unwilling or unable to provide these things to me and our family. All I know is that I feel like I have tried everything and he is unresponsive. I have decided to give it to God and let God deal with him and my reactions to him. I want so badly to give up, but I don’t know what I would do if I did. Honestly, I feel God has spoken and that is not an option. I just want to be able to love my husband, again. I need to feel cared for, cherished and adored. I cannot tell you when the last time was that I felt these things. I long to be secure in our love for each other.
I recently became engaged to a wonderful man. We are both divorced and had spouses who didn’t appreciate our goodness or our potential. Now that we found each other we feel so blessed! We tell each other daily how much we love and appreciate each other . My man has been working almost 7 days a week to help us get ahead. We both have jobs we love, but unfortunately they don’t pay us what we are worth. In December, my man was in a accident that totaled his car, and he went head on into a telephone pole. Thankfully the car got the most damage. My man’s life was spared and he found God because of it! I am so thankful for Keith and our love every day. I truly believe God brought us together. Divine intervention.
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I am struggling financially. We just bought a new home and then i lost my job but found another job with $7.50 pay difference so since then money has been tight. I started having anxiety and fear and trying to overcome that right now through prayer. i feel like i have to do everything by myself theres so much to do but i am only one person i know when i ask my husband to help he does help me and he is a very good provider and father to my kids.
enough get-up-and-go, just can’t seem to get off the couch at times unless I have to.
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enough- focus. I feel so scatterd! I think I started eight projects in one hour completely forgetting about them one right after another!
definitely struggling with energy today!
that is what I am struggling with “enough” of.. all of it! Maybe not everyday all of it, but every day some portion of it. Today, energy. Yesterday it was time.
I think for me it is my energy that runs out before it is all “done”!
It seems like there is never enough time in the day and that time just flies.
I definitely struggle with energy. Sometimes I think of all the things I have to do and feel totally overwhelmed. If only I could move and do every second I am awake, then I could get it all done.
I struggle with having balance btwn my work, husbands work, and family time with the kids.
I need enough patience and love to always respond in a kind way.
Energy! My little one keeps me on my toes and I am always tired!
I am struggling with not enough energy and money.
Energy, money, space and time! Kathi ~ Thank you so much for sharing your heart as a wife and mother! And a BIG shout out to Roger for helping me with commenting on your blog. Oh, I struggle with the computer! LOL Blessings!
Praying that I can remember to lay my burdens on God, not on my husband. I think this will be a revolutionary way of thinking for me, as I do constantly tell my husband that I need more help (I have fibromyalgia and just can’t do quite enough). But it is not up to my husband to fill in the gap. I need to remember that.
I am struggling with having enough energy. With a three week old and a strong willed 2 year old, I am desperately praying for more energy and patience with my 2 year old so that he gets all the love and attention he needs right now.
struggling with not having enough money and space.
Time. Definitely. With more time, I feel like I would be able to accomplish everything that I feel gets missed or pushed to the back burner, or done half-heartedly in an effort just o get it completed. Most of my stress stems from the constant frustration from feeling like I’ll never “catch up” with everything I need to get done. One thing gets crossed off my list, and is replaced by two more…
I struggle with enough time and energy. There is always something that needs to be done, and I constantly feel as though I am the only one working. Not true, my husband is wonderful, but I do not remember this enough. Thank you for your challenge.
I;m struggling with time and energy. I feel so stretched sometimes. We’re all hanging in there with home school and babysitting two infants during the day. I have bee praying for two weeks for supernatural energy and patience with all my children!! lol God is so good!
Enough Energy is what I am struggling with. Every “Little” thing takes alot out of me because I have a Brain Injury but I am Thankful to God I can do alot of things even though it takes a good while!
Lately it’s been motivation and energy… boy two boys can have you running!! 🙂 Love your books, thanks so much for all your share and wisdom you have!
I’m struggling with there being enough me. I can’t seem to finish all the thing I need to do in a day and be there for all the people who need me. I have to try to remember not to put it on my husband when he comes home looking for a safe place to calm down after working hard for us all day. thank you for posting this!
As the mother of 8 children (all but 3 are adults now, but they are needy in different ways), I feel like I am constantly being pulled on in so many different directions. Right now I am recovering from a flu bug which is one of those bugs that lingers on for several weeks and I am sooooo frustrated that I can’t keep up with what’s going on with my family. I’m constantly feeling exhausted. My house is a mess and my husband who can’t stand clutter is going batty! Several of my kids and myself are ADD, so at it’s best, our home is somewhat chaotic, but now…..! I want so much to make our home a place that reflects peace, harmony, and most of all love. I just discovered your web sight and books through my oldest daughter who struggles with organization as well. Thank you for the reminder of Who to go to with all my burdens. I want so much to start using your 15 minute method, so pray that I will have the energy to even do that!
All of the above except one, but then some more. Time to take care of the baby and keeping the house tidy. Energy to do it when there is time as baby still wakes up, thankfully just once now, but in the wee hours of the morning. Space to spend with God or just be. Patience when husband tries to help but doesn’t do it the same way I do. Joy to remember that at least he’s trying. Kind words instead of passive-aggressive sarcasm. Self-control to hold my tongue and anger and to remember he is well-intentioned…
This struck a cord with me this morning. My days and weeks have been full lately, at a time of year when I expect things to slow down and look forward to getting caught up on things and maybe, just maybe devoting some times to ideas I’M excited about… Although I don’t think I was doing it consciously, I’m sure I have been looking to my husband to ease the burden. Thanks for the timely reminder to look to Jesus… and then look for ways to bless my husband after a long day…
Enough time. My husband just got a new job (yeah), but he is also having to travel for the 1st month until they relocate the office to AZ. So, I am juggling the house, work, kids’ activities…however, I am so thankful that he made the HUGE, sometimes daunting, move to take on a new job! I am learning to trust God in all things and that once I lay my worries and fears at his feet, not to take them back and worry about them all over again.
Finances definitely :(…learning to trust God is not easy.
I am struggling with enough time. My hubby has been working long hours. My heart keeps trying to grab some resentment. I keep having to reel my focus back to being thankful for his job.
God knew I needed this today at this time. I think on some level, I expect my husband to know everything & to be somewhat of a “superman.” When he isn’t (and of course he can’t) then I think I project disappointment to him. He is a Godly man, and is always working toward my welfare & pleasing me. It’s time I showed him I appreciate him!
I struggle with lack of motivation (and energy) to get out of bed early to spend quality time with God. I don’t have a place in my home that I can go to to be “alone” with God and never seem to have enough time. I struggle with paying my tithes FIRST since we’re on bankruptcy and half my check goes to pay those bills.
Wow! You know how to hit the truth, sister! Thank you. So many women struggle with this as a central part of every day. We’re expected (by ourselves and other overwhelmed humans) to “do it all” and make it look easy. Well, it’s not. And we shouldn’t. I’m just learning now, after getting my 4 kids into school and balancing being a “do-er”, learner and small business owner, not to mention a “professional volunteer” type, that the silence is where God is… that if I don’t get my large foundational rocks in my bowl first, they’ll never fit after the water and pebbles of life get thrown in there. We will be ineffective, worn out and lacking the love our family and world need. God has great grace for me in learning and re-learning this…. Like a parent encouraging a toddler learning to walk. “Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World: Finding Intimacy With God in the Busyness of Life” by Joanna Weaver has been a really great book for me to work through with helping all of this. Thank you for addressing how this affects our marriages and thanks to everyone whose openness and honesty helps others to see they’re not alone.
There are lots of things I am struggling with having enough of. The biggest is time. Time with my husband as a family. He works 2 jobs and is gone 7 days a week. My prayer is that God will provide for us while giving us more family time.
I struggle with enough money. I am praying for me to always be reminded to put my burden where it belongs, at Gods feet. Thank you for this daily reminder. This has been so helpful
I struggle with all of the above 🙁 My husband is a agnostic playing with the idea of God, so it is more tough on me
Totally struggling with enough energy. Feeling like I don’t have quite enough for anyone many days.
I struggle with having enough space and time. It feels like all the responsibilities are too much.
My struggle is having enough motivation and “oomph” to get it all done.
Thanks for these great reminders. I am really enjoying them. They have been a blessing.
I always struggle with having enough me…..
I struggle with family issues I can’t fix. I don’t blame my husband he is as lost as me on a solution. It use to come between us till we totally understood that we could only get through this together
I appreciate this reminder. I am so challenged with all of this. I know that God is the one I should go to it is just hard to reminder. I reflect on how I am my husband’s help mate. I don’t do such a good job with that. I will be praying for God to help me prioritize and love on my husband.
I struggle with enough time. I am a wife, mother, small business owner, worship team member, and MOPS Coordinator, among other things. I’m working to scale back and bring some balance a decrease in stress. I usually get up at 5am and go to bed by 9 or 10pm. Still there doesn’t seem to be enough time. I want more time to enjoy my husband and my kids, so I’ve got to rearrange what I do and how I do it.
Today was just what I needed to hear. Last night as I was doing the dishes (by myself) after cooking (by myself) I started to get some resentment about all the things I do each day and how sometimes I feel like I am doing it all alone (I have a fabulous husband, that I LOVE dearly by the way). But it’s that inside chatter that sometimes dominates me life and it sure did last night. I didn’t blow up at him or anything but we also didn’t have a pleasant evening. I need to be reminded that God (and only God) can meet all my needs according to HIS plan! Thank you Lord for speaking to me this morning!
I struggle with trying to meet everyone’s needs. So I guess I would say that my real struggle is finding time to carve out for my self. My devotion time, prayer time prayer, study time and just the time I take to relax and take a breath all are sacrificed so that I can be available to someone else (my husband, children, commitments) nobody wins in that situation because no one gets the real me they get the me with empty spaces because I haven’t been able to fill those places up with Gods living water. That’s my struggle. But I’m confident the he who began a good work in me will carry it out into completion. I am going to MAKE the time! Thanks for this post!
I struggle with time…but the truth is I could use it more wisely and accomplish more 🙂 I pray that I focus on this and, in turn, it will produce less comparison with the help I need when hubby gets home.
You’re so right, Kathi! There is always more than enough. One of my favorite places in the world is Manila. There is an enormous amount of poverty but an equally as gracious amount of happiness. They are a really happy people. I’ve asked several Filipinas how they manage this and they all seem to say the same thing, “We’re just grateful.” And when I say we have so much more than they have… We are blessed indeed.
I am constantly feeling that there’s not enough me to go around and struggle with not enough time. You hit it square on the head as it relates to resentment over interruptions rather than thankfulness for what I have. Thanks for the post.