Ever catch your man’s eyes wander as the woman with the low-cut blouse with the lacy bra peeking out walks by?

Does your son suddenly stop what he’s doing and stare at the TV screen when a certain fast food burger commercial with the seductive women comes on the screen?

Sometimes this leaves us feeling hurt or angry. Some want to say men are pigs or perverts.

What if you found out that science has shown that men’s brains are physically different than women’s making it hard for us to understand the draw they have to certain visual stimulation? That the first initial reaction to the stimulation is an involuntary reflex?

Kathi talks with Shaunti Feldhahn  about her book Through a Man’s Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men. While is the full responsibility of men to make the right choices, it is also time to let women in on what that truly entails, and how to be “empathetic without endorsing.” Through compassion and candor, women can finally learn what guys have long wished they knew, but had no idea how to explain—and then see the amazing difference it makes in their relationships. 

Listen to this amazing episode as we work to understand our men in order to have a better marriage.

Meet Our Guest

Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti Feldhahn received her graduate degree from Harvard, and has worked on Wall Street and Capitol Hill. She unexpectedly became a social researcher and best-selling author equipping people with eye-opening, life-changing truths about personal and work relationships through her books that have sold two million copies in 22 languages, including For Women Only and The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace. Whereas her Only series opened the eyes of men and women to what they didn’t “get” about the opposite sex, her newest multiyear research project, published in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages investigates the process of what makes the happiest relationships. Feldhahn’s work has been covered by leading media, including The New York Times, NBC Today, and Focus on the Family. She and her husband have two children and live in Atlanta.


Kathi Lipp is the author of 17 books including Overwhelmed, Clutter Free, The Get Yourself Organized Project, The Husband Project, Happy Habits for Every Couple, and I Need Some Help Here – Hope for When Your Kids Don’t Go According to Plan. She is the host of Clutter Free Academy the Podcast! with Kathi Lipp and speaks at conferences across the US. Kathi is published with Revell Publishers and Harvest House Publishers.

She and her husband Roger are the parents of four young adults in San Jose, CA. When she’s not dating her husband or hanging out with her puggle Jake, Kathi is speaking at retreats, conferences and women’s events across the US.

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