A man’s confidence is the key to his entire world. And he gets most of his sense of confidence through two places: his work and his wife.
It’s a big responsibility (especially if his work life isn’t all that fantastic) but one that we are called to as his wife.
Proverbs 31:26
She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
When God calls us to something, He also equips us with the ability to follow through. So before you start the internal tape of all the reasons why building up his confidence isn’t really your “job,” let’s talk about what happens when we don’t.
Proverbs 14:1
The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.
OK, so now that we have that out of the way, let’s work together to come up with SIMPLE ways to build up your man.
5 simple ways to build your husband’s confidence:
- Verbally tell him why you love him — he works hard, he plays with the kids, he has the best butt, he treats your mom like a queen, etc. SO TELL HIM!
- Kiss him every single time you are parting ways and every time you come back together.
- Pray for him every day (check out my Pinterest board for suggestions on how to pray for him).
- Grab his hand when you are walking through Lowe’s. Place your hand on his leg next time you are out to dinner. Physical touch is a big deal to our guys and not just when it’s in the bedroom.
- Brag on him in front of others! This one is a huge deal. We know a couple that is very sarcastic with each other. But the wife recently confessed that sometimes her sarcasm comes out more like a complaint or putting her man down than just a funny jest (and usually it’s intentional). She has committed to bragging on him rather than putting him down in public, even if they are having a good verbal sarcasm session among friends.
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It’s GIVEAWAY time!!!
I want to give away a My Husband is a Hottie T-Shirt to two people! To win, visit my Facebook page, like it and then comment on the post at the top of my page with the question:
What’s one way you have found you are able to build your husband’s confidence?
Then, during my daily The Husband Project video on Wednesday, I’ll announce the two winners LIVE!
My hubby is big into reading motivational books, and so I just signed everyone in our family to receive a daily “inspirational” quote thru facebook (group d.i.quotes). It just comes thru our email. I often forward the email to him with a comment saying somthing like: “CHECK…You got this one already covered my sexy sweetie! Love You!” or something to that effect.
I love that!
I know you said to comment on Facebook, but my husband is on Facebook & I don’t want him to know I’m doing this project ?
I try to tell him how proud I am of him daily. I thank him for working so hard for us & the sacrifice he makes being away from us. We always tell each other “I love you ” & always kiss when we meet & as we say “see you soon”.
I always like to share the little things he does for me with others that mean so much!
Thanks so much for sneaking over here to leave a comment. 🙂
The best way I build up my husband’s confidence is by words of affirmation. When we did the 5 languages of love, words of affirmation was his love language. He beams when I compliment him or brag on him or post something on FB that he’s done.
A lot of men have that love language. And it’s so easy to slip in a kind word here and there and really build them up.
One way I know I can build his self confidence is by physical touch, it’s definitely one of his love languages. It’s an area I struggle with and I need to make more of an effort/be intentional. Another way is by thanking him when I notice he has done something to help out without me even asking.
Those are both wonderful ways to show your man how much you love him!
Compliments! And often! Find and point out all the good things he does and is… Try not to sweat the small stuff and grow the good stuff…. I’ve been telling him that he is a “hottie” lately too! It’s so fun!! Loving THP!
I’m so glad that you’re having fun with this! I am sure your husband is loving it. 😉
Struggling to get through these spam measures. I married my math tutor! I had tried to comment that I would love a shirt. Also, I helped him with some business that her couldnt do at work. Our together project is a chicken coup. I think it helps me more than him.
That’s so great that you’re working on projects together. That time together can be so much fun!
What’s one way you have found you are able to build your husband’s confidence? Pray for him.To be the godly husband God has called him to be,and remember he is a gift from God,but praying the scriptures and puting his name in them is great -like Psalm 1:1-3 where it says he I put his name in it.
That’s awesome! I love this!
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I send my husband random texts during the day. I show him affection, hold hands, kiss him randomly for no reason. Not often enough, I actually tell him that he’s an awesome husband and father.
Keep up the good work!
My husband works outside the home and I’m a stay at home mom and wife. My husband is a very hard worker and he does things not just at work but also outside of work to supply our needs. So I have been pointing out specific things and thanking him for each and all he does to take care of us.
I’m sure your husband appreciates all you do to show that you love him!
When I show him love and affection it truly builds his confidence & self-esteem. I love him for his heart & not his outward appearance.
You’re so right!
When I thank him for helping out around the house with chores his love tank is filled.
Keep that love tank filled!! 🙂
I have found if I am grateful and show him my appreciation he is more confident. It is amazing what a simple thank you can do.
It really doesn’t take much!