It was one of those conversations that feels like it comes along once in a lifetime.
I was online with four other women who all run businesses from home or work in a corporate office. We were talking about work and raising kids and the conversation veered toward the same topic that it always does when women are gathered together: guilt.
But this chat took a different turn than the normal mommy-guilt bend I usually hear. Instead of us talking about feeling guilty because we had to work, we all felt guilty that we loved to work.
“I love my job. I’m way better at my job than I am being a room mom.”
“I wish that I loved sitting at soccer games. I love my kids, but I need something outside of my family.”
“I love hanging out with my kids. I also love crushing it in my job and talking to grownups.”
My people. Super achievers.
It was an honest, raw and life-giving talk. These were people who love their families, but also love their work and were unashamed to say so. They didn’t apologize for utilizing their giftings, and their passion for their work fueled my own passion.
I adore my kids.
I’m wild about my husband.
But. It’s not enough.
(There. I said it.)
It just isn’t.
Recently, I’ve been reading a book that talks exactly to this. In ‘Holy Hustle: Embracing a Work-Hard, Rest-Well Life’ author, Crystal Stein talks about how the desires to love well, rest well and work hard are not contradictory desires. I love that.
It’s not enough because God did not design it to be enough.
The drive I have to work is not placed in me just to make me successful. It’s there to glorify God. That fact raises my work to a whole new level and allows me to fully be, unapologetically me. How crazy is it that fully being me and living out my potential glorifies God?!
There is something about a super achiever that says, “Yep – I’m not just working to pay the bills. I’m working for a higher purpose.” You can see it in the results of their work and in their attitude as they work. This kind of work is the work that changes the world. You can always spot a super achiever at work.
I’ve seen it happen over and over again: That insurance agent on the phone is a super achiever. She is going above and beyond. After a few minutes, the conversation goes to what I do for a living and she finds out I’m a Christian and drops just enough hints to let me know that she is as well. But you know, I already suspected as much.
Here is my definition of “Super Achiever”:
Someone who, no matter their circumstances, is always working to make, create, do or be something.
If I were stranded on a desert island, I would write a book in the sand, create a line of clothing out of palm fronds, and would line up a bunch of coconuts for a leadership conference. Those coconuts would never be the same.
It’s how God has made me – and location, circumstances, time or money will not change that.
It’s time to stop apologizing for how God has made us and not only celebrate, but recalibrate our own , and the world’s expectations of what we should be doing and how we should be behaving? Do you think there’s no way you are one? You might be surprised…
The qualities of a super achiever:
1. You work hard at being great at what you do.
I was in line at a writer’s conference behind Patsy Clairmont.
The Patsy Clairmont.
I was thrilled – and confused.
“I didn’t see your name on the faculty list!” I gushed. I would have remembered that.
“I’m not here as a teacher. I’m just attending.” Patsy said.
I loved that. And I was taken back by it. If someone who has written as many books as she has is still learning, should’t I be as well?
Ever since then, I’ve attended one writer’s conference and one speaker’s conference every year, not to teach, but to learn.
2. You work for a high authority.
Colossians 3:23-24 says, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”
Friend, that “whatever” is key. I don’t know what your “whatever” is, but it’s time we started to take that more seriously. Because any work, anything we do to serve others, lead others or love others, when done with excellence, will honor God.
I refuse to feel bad about working hard. Whatever I’m doing, I want to do it with my full heart. I love the movie Chariots of Fire, and quote it often when I’m talking about work. One of the lines that doesn’t get as much attention in that movie, but resonates more and more with me each day, is when Eric’s father is letting him know that it’s okay to run in the Olympics (as opposed to his sister who sees running as frivolous and wants him to skip the Olympics and hurry up and get on the mission field.) Dad reminds his son, “Eric, you can glorify God by peeling a potato if you peel it to perfection.”
Anything I do can be done to the glory of God if I am working hard and getting better at it. Why would I apologize for bringing glory to God by being faithful to what he has placed within me?
3. You love people, but you have to be purposeful in making time for them.
As a super achiever I could work on my blog, create a new plan for world domination, and cook a month’s worth of freezer meals while filming it on Facebook Live and spend all day doing it and loving it. It would only be as I crawl into bed that I realize I’ve had no human contact all day.It’s not because I don’t love my humans – I’m wild about them. But it’s so easy to go into achieving mode that I forget that I need (and they need) a little love along the way.
This is why I have to be purposeful in carving out time that is all focused on people I love. Not checking my phone, not sneaking in work on my computer. But if I get an idea for a blog post for decluttering your kitchen while I’m making Asian stir-fry with my husband, you better believe I’m writing it down. Why? Because that is living out my passion, both for my family and my work.
4. You have to be careful that the glory is going to the right place.
As a super achiever, it can be tempting to believe that you are just built stronger, faster and better than those around you. That would be a lie, friend and a dangerous one at that.
God has equipped each of us so uniquely and differently. We must absolutely recognize that the credit goes to God, who has gifted us, equipped us, and assigned us for the work. When I really think about this, my attitude to my work shifts and my goal is to glorify God, not pursue success for myself. This also gives me freedom to leave results up to God, I am freed from the pressure to produce.
5. You make the world a better place.
One of the best things I’ve learned as a super achiever? I must refuse to lessen myself so that others can feel more important. I won’t apologize for how God has made me. Instead – I will work to raise everyone up. I will help everyone around me see that all the work that we do, inside the home, outside of it, for giant corporations, or for our home business of one, can be worthy and valuable and honor God. When we embrace the way God has made us and leverage our gifts, we lead others to do the same. Contrary to what some might say, we don’t need less super achievers – we need more. Imagine what the world would be like if there were more people leveraging their gifts to honor God.
The “mommy wars”, “woman wars”, any “wars” that don’t build up other women who have made other choices? End with me.
Home full-time with the kids, working full-time, or somewhere in between? Every family’s choice of how they will work can be prayed over, decided and lived out with holiness.
Why the world needs super achievers
I’m grateful that there is a book like Holy Hustle that recognizes, and honors, the way that God has designed Crystal, and me, and hundreds of other women in my life to be.
Because the world needs women like us. The ones who get up early, push projects forward, love hard, and get up and do it all again the next day.
The world needs women who, while moving those things forward, are also bringing others forward to accomplish great things.
The world needs women who are great at what they do, and know where that greatness comes from.
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I worked full time for 42 years and just recently retired due to health problems. Through the years while I worked I led women’s bible studies, volunteered with the youth group and taught sunday school. I can’t remember a time I wasn’t doing “too much”. God has taught me through the years that saying no is okay but I still struggle with wanting to “do” more. I love your posts Kathi. I attended your workshop at Hearts at Home and learned so much!
Cindy, thanks so much for sharing! It definitely is difficult slowing down when we’re used to do so much. Hugs!
I’ll often default to self-deprecation–which is another way to not embrace the way God has made me.
You are spot on again, my friend! Gary came in the other day to tell me that he had officially been able to “pick” a day we could one day retire with our financial planner, and I told him he was speaking evil in our house! LOL! Although I love that he is trying so hard to take care of us, I can’t imagine retiring because I love my job. It is so rewarding to pour into the lives of the families at my school. I am blessed to do what I do.
I feel you!!!
I have a sweet 3 yo daughter. Although I love her like crazy, I am looking all the time for some little ways to volunteer or to earn some money on side. I guess now that I was created for hustle too 🙂
Sounds like you were!!
Girlllllllllllllll — I couldn’t possible love this any more than I do. I was absolutely MADE for the Holy Hustle — I loved being home with my kids when they were little, but I always had an outside thing (usually my own business) because I am just wired that way. As I have gotten *ahem* older, I still have the drive, but I think I am less “all over the place” than I used to be. While I am not going full throttle, on purpose, any longer, I am still hustling, moving and seeking whatever God has next.
And I am sure you are getting things done for the Kingdom!! You go!
I’ve never considered myself as a “super achiever” in life, but maybe I am. As an oncology nurse, and now an oncology nurse educator, I want to grow professionally. However, as a child of God, I want to grow in grace and be a Kingdom worker. That is more important to me. Finding the right balance between home, church, and work is necessary; but it won’t be split in thirds! I need my downtime, too!
Yes, balance is so important!!
I’ve worked all my life. I love it. I’ve loved the many careers I’ve had. I’m well past “retirement age” but love to hang with younger folks, write, teach, and disciple. We are moving closer to our grandkids and I am almost in terror that I will be expected to be a full-time grandma. I love them to pieces. In bits and pieces. Boundaries needed!
Bits and pieces, yes! You keep doing what you’ve been doing. Such great things!
Thank you for recognizing that there are people who are made by God to live and love like this! I was so frustrated as a new mom when people told me that I couldn’t/shouldn’t do this or that (teach Sunday school, work, help with a church dinner, etc.) because I had a baby. I thrive on helping and teaching others–these are my God-given gifts. Thank you for the encouragement to be who God made me to be. I need more voices like you in my life!
You’re so welcome! I’m glad this blessed you. 🙂
Oh, how I love this post so much. Why? Because I can relate. I’ll never forget the year I was asked to be a room mom for my son’s preschool class. I said yes, because I loved the teacher and wanted to help her out. Let’s just say, I was a disaster. And it was in that moment that it became even more clear to me, how God has uniquely wired me, a woman who leads, inspires, encourages and motivates others. And I was once again reminded that it’s ok for me to be exactly who he created me to be.
Every day. Always!! Be who God made you to be. 🙂
I’m always thinking of ways to make things better and how to bless my family and those I encounter. I love problem solving. I work part-time and love my job. I take care of my home and family and love that! I get the best of both worlds. I love feeling like I made my world better. I am constantly praying that I am doing what I need to be doing because I have felt and been told I do too much. I struggle a bit with resting, but yet I get refueled from being home cleaning. I’m very interested in this book, I feel like it will help me be ok with how God made me. 🙂
You’re making a difference no matter what you do–be it at home or at work. That’s what counts!
Oh- I see myself so much in this! For so long, I felt guilty using my gifts- like being so involved in leading and ministry was not a womanly thing to do. So much freedom in listening to Jesus and following his lead, not my idea of what I should be.
Yes!! Such freedom. 🙂
Ever since I heard this podcast I have been hearing the lyrics “everyday I’m hustling” and it reminds me that this is what I do. I try not to let work be my everything but I have to provide for my kids and save for our future so I find myself working one full time job and ready to start a part time every other weekend job. I’ve been blessed with many skill sets and don’t want to let them go to waste. In all of this I still make sure to find time to be with my kids enjoying those moments when we connect.
You’re definitely in the every day hustle and it sounds like you’re cut out for it! 🙂
I love being a homemaker. I thrive with a house full of kids and a huge dinner party on the calendar!
I love it!
This is what I wrote in my journal the morning this podcast was released… “I literally was just praying and thanking the Lord for saving me even though I am sometimes so faithless and distracted by all the work I have to do. Kathi Lipp’s newest podcast just came up on my feed: Embracing the Girl who loves to hustle.” It was a moment where I felt so incredibly seen and loved by my Creator. Even as my mind was spinning with ideas and a way too long to do list, He was there reminding me that He knows.
That blesses my heart so much!!
I never thought I was a hustler; I associated it with pushy salespeople and “pushy” was never my thing. But a super-achiever? That was, and to a certain extent, still is my thing. I was high school valedictorian and held leadership positions in every organization I joined (including MOPS, where I was introduced to the one-and-only Kathi Lipp!). The lazy, procrastinating part of me doesn’t want to take on anything that sounds like a lot of work…but when I do, I give it my all. (Elementary school yearbook, I’m talking to you!) So maybe I really am a hustler but I’ve been in denial/undercover all these years.
Time to step out of denial, haha!! You go!
Now that I am retired and no longer a dedicated, self motivated, well God-motivated, fairly high achiever nurse I nee to redirect energy and work as unto the Lord in a different way. Searching for a ministry at which I might be good. Nursing was my identity as I am not married and no kids. Need help, Lord. Oh, and I am an introvert but love teaching and am good at admin.
Marcene, won’t it be exciting to see what ministry God directs you to?!!
This was great! I know I was designed for this because when I was a kid me and my brother would run a “diner” in our living room, he would cook (scrambled eggs) and I would take the order on my writing pad and have receipts. Now I have a small business from home, with husband, kids, church, BSF, and other random things, and about to start homeschooling. Thank you for writing this because I was starting to think something was wrong with me!
Nothing wrong with you. You love the hustle!!!
I’m a crazy multi tasker always trying to find ways to conquer mil to do list!!
im wanting to learn how to REST IN HIM more and let go of cleaning and doing so much!
I am multi tasking way too much because sometimes I say yes to my kids and then don’t remember I said yes. Then there are times I’m too focused on something and I don’t hear my husband asking me questions. I am trying to slow down or listen. Especially now since we are raising our granddaughter whos almost 2 also have a 16 and 19 year old at home. God is good and still working on me to slow down and be patient.
Yes, there definitely has to be a balance! We can’t always be on the move. 🙂
Oh my goodness, I had no Idea I was designed to hustle until I became an adult. At first, I thought it was more because I had to as a single mom, going to college for Psychology, graduating with honors, involved in volunteer work at a Crises center, and working my way off of welfare by the time I graduated. Years later, after much ministry work where I poured in a lot of ideas, I am finally realizing this.
I was wired with a creative, idea-generating mind and an internal drive to see things happen. Not because someone told me so, but because (I think) God stirs a fire and I can’t not do it.
Today, I’m happily pursuing several things that require hustle and still excite me.
You were designed for the hustle!
I love being a respiratory therapist. I went to school after taking care of my dad who had a tracheotomy and a feeding tube. I work night shift. I have a 14 year old wonderful daughter who my mom does school with and is such a blessing. I also sell Origami Owl jewelry on the side also.
Thank you for honoring and serving your family so well!
Bless you for doing all you do for your family!
Loved the podcast! It gave me hope!
Thank you so much Lisa!
I cannot wait to read that book and get one for my adult daughter (she’s just like me). I went back to school at 51…worked hard for 4 years in a BA program. Graduated with honors, and then got diagnosed with a brain tumor. I got my masters from bed. I couldn’t even walk for 3 years, lost half my hearing, had terrible double vision. But I believed God was calling me to become a therapist and I was driven (supernaturally). I am not happy if I’m not busy doing or learning something! I write, paint, photograph everything. TRY to learn Photoshop and how to do this or that. After five years of working as a therapist (after 7 years of full time schooling) the brain tumor came back! More six hour surgery, more recovery. Suddenly (3 years later) the Lord is opening the door to do therapy again. People are coming out of the woodwork to work with me. I am also writing a book, working on learning landscape oil painting, photography, etc. I am not trying to brag. I have always felt sort of guilty about being so driven. Your post arrived just in time! Thank you!
What an incredible example of God continuing the good work He began! So grateful for the lives you’ll be able to touch through your work.
Wow! Just wow! You are amazing and you’re doing things that will change the world!
I retired a couple years ago at my husbands request. I was actually happy to at the time, I had lost a brother to cancer and wanted to focus on family. My husband and I took a ten week road trip visiting aunts (i have 3 who are older – 2 my husband had never even met – and I did not want any regrets of not seeing them and making sure they knew how important they are to me. We also visited many other family and friends spread out over the US. It was a wonderful trip. Currently my husband and I are in Costa Rica for our 25th wedding anniversary (we are towards the end of our two months here). We have 3 adult kids still living with us (I feel bad for them and the price of housing in our area). I have enjoyed a different sort of time with them since I have been retired. But..,.God has been stiring in me, yes I love my family but I miss being around people and using my gift of encouragement. Thank you for this post. I would love to read the book. I talked to my husband earlier this year, fortunately he loves me and supports me in anything I want to do, and I let him know I wanted to apply to be a Flight Attendant. It is a very competitive industry but I figure if God wants me flying in the skies for Him that it will work out. I applied in February to the only airline I felt drawn to. I had a phone interview in April, and was given the opportunity to move to a Face to Face interview in Dallas. I am still waiting to schedule that (answer to prayer that it didn’t need to happen while my husband and I are in Costa Rica). Over 20,000 people applied for about 1500 positions. This is the first job I have not needed but felt God’s calling toward and I am excited to see what He has in store for me, whether I get it or not, I know He is in control. And now I don’t feel guilty and feel encouraged that there are many women out there like me (I wish I had discovered that when I was a working mom with 4 kids who loved my kids but also loved to work). PS – our 25th anniversary is on 6/19.
Linda! First, happy anniversary! And as someone who did a LOT of travel for a previous job, I can’t begin to explain the difference an encouraging, kind attendant made on those flights. Praying for you as you continue to seek God’s will for this new adventure!
You are doing so many things many people don’t ever get the chance to do, and when you get back home, you’re going to do even more wonderful things! Happy anniversary and I sure hope you get that job as a flight attendant. 🙂
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I think I might be designed for the hustle. I’m stay at home mom with a side work from home job and I am on leadership for my MOPS group. When it does come time to relax, you typically will find me with tv on for background noise always doing something multitasking. I always feel the need to do something. However; if given the choice, I would rather just be there with my kids. That can be hard to do sometimes when I’ve constantly got a running todo list in my head. I love doing stuff for other people!
I love that you’ve got such a servant heart!
It sounds like you are definitely designed for the hustle!
I think I was made to “hustle”, but the only way I do is to KNOW MY DEADLINE!!! I recently just completed vacation bible school decorations for my church, and even up to the last few days, thought “I’m never gonna get this done!” But God and several of my church family helped tremendously in getting it completed!!! The Lord was praised, and the kids absolutely loved the decorations!!! And they are having a great week in VBS!!! Otherwise, I most times like to have plenty of time to get my jobs done, so I do them well, not rushed!
A perfect example of how we can always do more for God’s kingdom when we work together!
This was a refreshing blog post for me. It felt like I was reading my bio, lol. There are so many things that I love and feel passionate about (writing, recording music, creating content). I think I’ve been this way for as long as I can remember.
There’s this urge within me to create, work hard, and provide for my family. 95% of the time, I’d rather be working on a new project rather than washing my dishes or laundry…so instead, I end up staying up late, or sneaking in educational podcasts while I wash dishes. It’s very much a part of who I am.
I definitely listen to podcasts while I do dishes and laundry – and although I know that those things serve and honor my family when I do them, it’s taken awhile for me to learn how/when to do them in a way that feels effective!
My hustle is in remission, I know it’s there and some days I can be an overachiever, but since my husband past away it’s in hiding. I really miss it but that’s ok for now, because I know it will return.
Before I was organized and could be the super achiever. I could go to work, get all my displays done, the quilt shop where I work cleaned and organized. Then come home and keep going, cooking, cleaning, going to various group meetings, workshop for those groups….. Some days it was organized chaos, but I loved it.
Penny, I’m so sorry for your loss. Scripture reminds us that there are seasons for everything, and it’s ok to be in a season of healing and rest! That is the most important work for you to do right now. Although as someone who grew up with a mom who loved to quilt, I would LOVE to visit the your shop.
I used to be an over achiever but “stopped” because I got married to an uber competitive over achiever & it was “too much”. I then became “super wife/homemaker/bonusmom/mom” and lost myself. 16 yrs, 2 kids(Bonus is 22 now; daughter 12, son 6), 3 major moves later I am now in DESPERATE need to find and get my HUSTLE back. I have enrolled in school fulltime for the Fall with a full 18 hr class load.
It is so easy to lose ourselves that way. I’m glad you’re marching forward and starting the hustle that makes you so happy!
Wow. Just wow.
This post really spoke to my heart.
I’ve been struggling with feeling restless and purposeless. I just went to an amazing leadership convention and came away, not as much inspired, as really sad, wondering if I’ve been wasting my life… I am definitely a hustler, but I need to re-evaluate and figure out how to hustle with a purpose…
I struggle with the term “super achiever,” but the potato quote helped me with perspective. It is not super achievement in the world’s eyes, but in God’s, because we love HIM, not so He will love us. He has already proven that He loves us… we don’t need to earn it.
I love the hustle and living a life of a achieving what He has placed before me. I am more excited about life and more pleasant when I have a full plate of activity. I love my family more than words can express but I am better at every role when I get to participate in doing the different things I am passionate about. I have a heart for missions, women, and leading others to living a life knowing who they are in Christ.
I need this book and I cannot wait to read it!
I’m so glad this spoke to you and I hope you hear from the Lord soon about what He wants for your future!
I stumbled onto an online business a few years ago and started it just to earn a little spending money. I quickly fell in love with it and realized i’m much happier when I’m working. My business now takes over a huge chunk of my home and time (no, it is not an MLM) and I love it. When I need down time from the kids I usually go to my office to work a little because it brings me joy.
Love this!! Sometimes we never know where those gold nuggets will come from!
Ah, this post soothes the soul. I, too, have felt guilt in the past for all of the ministry I do, even had loving family members chime in to make sure I felt the pang of guilt, lol. “Your children need you”. Um . . . my children are now in their 20’s. But reflecting on truth has freed me. God calls each of us to be about His kingdom work. Sometimes that has meant staying home and home educating my children, but in this season of my life, they are learning by watching how fervently I work to share God’s encouragement to others. Ironically, by being a little less available to my now adult children, it has helped them to become more independent . . . and start to do ministry on their own, too.
Yes! 1000%!
I loved this podcast! I really want to be better about hustling more for God! I love living a full life homeschooling my kids and running in races and triathlons for myself with my tribe of sisters! I have a hard time stopping to sit still but I have come to realize I need rest still but maybe in different ways. I would love this book to learn more about how to rest properly so that I can hustle for the Lord at my best!
I’m so glad this podcast spoke to you. You’re doing an awesome job!
Congratulations Danielle! You are one of the book giveaway winners! I will email you for your mailing address. Thank you for participating and I hope you enjoy the book!
God did not design me for hustle outside the home. I do however hustle in the home with 4 kids and a foster baby. My job is my husband, kids and home. I hustle daily to give us the best life possible
Sounds like a great kind of hustle to me!!
I loved this conversation. I really appreciated the part that you helped me to see that hustle and striving aren’t the same thing.
So glad this helped you!
I’m not really sure where I fall. Obviously, I do love my people (hubby and 2 daughters), but I really love being alone and also know I need friend time. I like taking care of the house and my people. But, I do enjoy my run-from-home CPA business and even doing the books for our restaurant. So, yeah, I guess I do love the hustle!
It sounds like you definitely DO love the hustle!
Was I made for the hustle? That’s actually a profound question. Currently, I am seeking God’s will as to which of my many endeavours to continue pursuing and which God would have me set aside. Regardless, as “an extrovert on steroids,” I know I am meant to encourage and interact with others … in person and online.
Extrovert on steroids! I love that!
This is such a great message! I have six kids and we are a very high energy family. My days are full top to bottom and sometimes I feel like other moms are trying to shame me for “doing too much “. I appreciate the message of this book!
I’m so glad you enjoyed this. If you were meant for the hustle and you find joy in it, then you go, girl!
I love serving and taking care of hubby and 4 other friends that cling on wants and needs to be met and advise ,, gets too much In times; but have many interests and like to be busy plus is healthy for us ! In all you do work, as working for the Lord, love to live by this and also to reach out for the Lord to others…but also need recharge and know to slow down, take care of myself learning to apply still;
Exactly!
I love Crystal’s message of Work Hard, Rest Well. I believe we really have to rest well in order to work hard and complete the tasks God has called us to as we serve and love well. I think there’s a misconception of the hustle, that it means we’re always on-the-go with non-stop busyness, which can be true for some people depending on their personality, but I think it means getting the things done because I’m undistracted from my goals.
You said it perfectly!
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When I was about six, my mom came home from a PTA meeting and announced that she’d been elected secretary. I said, “That’s what I’ve been telling you, Mommy. When you grow up, you’ve got to be somebody.”
That’s awesome!
I am a busy mom, but I have always had a side hustle. I think it is valuable for our kids to see that just because you do not have a 9-5 job doesn’t mean that you cannot creatively earn an income.
Right!
I was designed to hustle. If I’m not I feel lost. I had run a home based eBay business for over 11 years, but in the last year started doing Furniture refinishing and custom wood signs, because I love doing it. But I have a hard time finding balance between working at home, household management, homeschooling and taking care of my family and myself. I then feel guilty and feel like I should give it all up to concentrate fully on my home and family. But then I feel lost again. Like there is something else I should be doing also. Knowing that there can be a balance and that it is okay, would be a blessing to me. I’m currently in a season of rest due to overextending myself, going non stop 7 days a week, little sleep and poor nutrition. God is working in me and with me to heal my anxiety, knowing I needed this rest. I’m praying that I will know what God wants me to do from this day forward and to learn to rest not just hustle. Thank you!
We definitely have to take care of ourselves or we’ll be so depleted, we don’t have anything else left for our families and jobs. Hope you come out of this restful time rejuvenated and ready for what the Lord has in store!
I’m a person who loves to serve. I’m on the women’s advisory panel and the children’s ministry team, sing in choir and on praise team, but my big ministry is directing vbs at a church where we have nearly 500 kids attend. Besides that I take care of my 3 kids and in my spare time I write novels. It’s busy, but I love it!
You were made for the hustle!
I don’t hustle. Hustling makes me crazy. I am a perfectionist and a procrastinator. I am aware that I need to change this and get some organization in my life. I’m working on that and will take any tips to help. I feel that I am made to be a mentor to other moms and certainly want to move in that direction with my life. I do love serving and helping others in whatever I do. I am looking into hosting a blog (do they call it hosting?) Anyway, helping moms is my passion. I do feel like I need to get it a little more together myself first. 😉
Organization definitely is important if you don’t like the hustle! 🙂
I’m not necessarily built for the hustle unless it’s something I’m extremely passionate and feel called to do. My hustle is Children’s Ministry. I work in ever single part of our church’s children’s ministry and I love every single minute of it. That is what God has designed me for and I work my heart out for it and I wouldn’t have it any other way!!! ??
*every. Lol
I’m so glad you’ve found what God has designed you for!
I ? & don’t ? the hustle!!! When I was in the Navy I hustled at every command I was at. In my job, volunteering for community relations projects, command Christmas parties, as a Command Financial Specialist, going to any extra training & schools I could attend, etc. until I retired after 25 years in the Navy/Army. Now as a SAHW/M I have seasons of hustle with 2 boys, a husband who works full-time & is a missionary, volunteering at the school, serving at Church, crafting with friends, learning to become a Domestic Engineer, traveling, connecting with friends & family, launching ng my first son into the world after graduation this year, working part-time for a bit until I felt called to come back home for my boys. I realize I do more when I can & I re~prioritize & do less when I’ve overdone it. My body sometimes lays me out with migraines do I know I need a break. I’m learning to have balance in my life after going going going non~stop but I thrive on activity & now know I need to step back from good things sometimes to re~center myself & my family!!!
Stepping back sometimes is crucial. Sometimes it’s the only way we can find our way again.
I have always been a procrastinator…wanting things to be perfect before I start, but I have almost always found it is in that hustle & bustle of trying to get everything done that I’m most productive!!! I wouldn’t say I love the hustle, but it works for me at times!
So you’ve just learned to go with the hustle when you have to? That’s the way to get things done sometimes!
I’m not built for the hustle at all! I know that because I lived with my sister (who is built to hustle) for 9 months and she completely overwhelmed me! I need to have margin to think deeply and contemplate my next move. Busyness just overwhelms me mentally.
It is very important to know if you’re not built for the hustle. And not all people are. Sounds like your sister can help you if you need someone to hustle for you, haha!
I’m a perfectionist by nature. I’ve had to learn to temper that ambition to do everything perfectly or do nothing at all! For he last year and a half the Lord had been giving me the word REST …. and compelling me to read psalm 23 over and over. I didn’t heed his nudging. On February 22 I had a heart attack. I’ve learned very quickly that REST isn’t an option. It’s a must. Sabbath must be part of our practice. So, i now say I’m a recovering, ambitious perfectionist who now purposely calendars “fun and rest” days so they become part of my life on a regular basis.
Rest is definitely VERY important!! We can’t get our work done if we’re not well-rested. 🙂
I am a woman made for the hustle; I feel like I came out of the womb with a Thanksgiving platter instead of the dinner plate everyone else seemed to be given.
Luke 12:48 God expects much from us hustlettes 🙂
I love it!!
I’m not gonna lie. I used to HATE the hustle! But after a lot of frustration and then prayer, I realized that I was hustling for all the wrong reasons. I went about my days filling them up with to-do’s that didn’t really need to be done and who were any of them really benefiting? (I still don’t know, lol)
BUT, once I starting putting in my time working for the joy of the Lord, the good of my family, it all started to fall into place!
The hustle now is a happy thing…..not that it doesn’t make me tired and need a recharge from time to time, but now it has PURPOSE.
Purpose! Yes, if we’re doing the hustle for the wrong reasons, then we might as well not do them. Right?
I have had several iterations of hustle over the course of my life-and so grateful He has given me focus and drive for each one! I am all in when the purpose and goals are clear and learning to push into the unknown when they aren’t. Right now I am all in caring for my grand kids after God made it clear I was to set aside my career and wait until my next call. In the waiting I have learned so much(an had a ton of fun pouring into my littles). He has given me a glimpse of what’s next and I am so excited and will , undoubtedly, be all in when the time comes for the yes!!
That’s so awesome that God has led you to “hustle” with your grand kids! But also so great that you know wonderful things are in your future. 🙂
As long as I can remember, my prayer has been for “balance”. I thrive on working and serving and loving “the hustle”, but like Kathi-must recharge in solitude. However too much quietness can mess with me, and I lean towards melancholy, as I struggle to find purpose. I really related to the discussion about the link between depression and overwork.
I’m so glad that the discussion was helpful to you!
I always thought I wanted the quiet and slow life but when I have opportunity for it, I find myself restless and as if something is missing. On my heart there’s always a goal and a dream, when I am pursuing them, life is so much brighter. I love reading how God placed different things on our hearts. ??
And we are not failures when our life looks different from someone else’s.
Exactly!!!
Great episode and post, and I can’t wait to read Holy Hustle! I know I was designed for the hustle because I’m more present with my people when I’ve spent time doing work I believe God has called me to do—for me that’s teaching piano lessons, writing, or making meals for farmers. 🙂
I love that you’ve found your groove and you know what makes you feel in sync with God!
Holy Hustle sounds very Intresting. I would love to be more of a Hustler but my brain is that of a squirrel. I pray that God will transform me to be more disciplined and Focus
I love the idea of HOLY HUSTLE. I love working at my church even though I am a homeschooling mom of 13 and 3 grandbabies!
It sounds like you are living a life full of hustle!
I love the idea of a HOLY HUSTLE. I don’t like when others make me feel like I am “too busy” when I love doing activities with my church. I am a homeschool momma of 13 with three grandbabies so I am always on the go. Love that someone understands how with Christ all things are possible!
I enjoyed today’s podcast! I am always up to something. During these summer/fall months I grow flowers for the Farmers Market, I have started a home baking business (which I LOVE!), I do custom furniture refinishing, and I teach preschoolers at our churches Kids Day Out during the school year. I love what Gods allowed me to do and also struggle to balance being home for my family and also using my home as my business home base.
You’re knocking things out, aren’t you? You go!!
I was designed for the hustle! I am a much happier, motivated and life-giving person when I personal challenges going on in my life. People always say they don’t know how I do it all (or why). The truth is, I need to activity and challenge outside the home, and there’s a lot I just don’t do “well” at home because I put that energy elsewhere. Yes, there is some guilt at times, but I have to accept that’s who I am. If I don’t have some kind of new challenge going on, it’s kind of depressing!
I love that!!! You know your sweet spot and you’re walking it out. 🙂
Being a caregiver, medical professional, aka workaholic, and a people pleaser is the trifecta of overwhelming over achiever. Too nice, do gooder. Contrary, to the popular belief, I am completely opposite in my private and personal life. That’s is what led me to find Kathi Lipp Clutter Free book and academy. Putting everyone and everything above my own needs and responsibilities, I was doing for others what I didn’t think I deserved for myself. I know today that God’s grace has given me patience with myself, guidance and baby steps to balance over the all or nothing syndrome. Perfectionism and procrastination, combined with ADD and OCD, shows me how unique we are and God’s sense of humor in His creation.
I love how God put you together!!
I’m praying my side hustle will take off with the Lords blessing. I can tend to be lazy partly out of fear. I totally enjoyed the podcast and blog
I’m so glad you enjoyed the podcast! Here’s hoping your side hustle will take off like crazy! 🙂
I inherited my dad’s hustle who could out work anyone at age 75! My challenge is to find balance in my love for work
Yes, balance can be difficult at times. But I’m sure you’re up for the challenge. 😉
I can’t sit still.
I am a Daughter of the King, and God made me for the hustle. I am single, well over 60, run my own business, write, and recently started life coach training. Adapted from Psalm 91:16 (KJV) “With long life will I satisfy her, and shew her my salvation.” And all the sisters said, “AMEN.”
Wow! You go, girl! I love that! <3
I think I was born to hustle… going all the way back to my childhood, I was always juggling multiple activities, making to-do lists, and achieving goals. As an adult, I have always balanced a successful career in Financial Services with a variety of civic and volunteer activities. Over the last couple of years, the weariness of striving started to creep in. Kathi’s publication of Overwhelmed came at the perfect time for me. I started to practice keeping the Sabbath weekly, and then in December I made a BIG leap and left my job in corporate America to take a year of intentional rest. The past 6 months have been glorious as I have removed most of my obligations and focused my activities on resting, recharging and refocusing for the next phase of my career. I can’t wait to read Holy Hustle. It’s sure to speak straight to my soul as I consider starting my own ‘hustle’ as either a part-time or full time vocational pursuit in coaching.
Sounds like you definitely were a natural-born hustler! Keep up the good work. 🙂
I know I’m made to work and hustle because I’m a preschool speech-Language pathologist. I help non-verbal and minimallly verbal preschoolers find their voice. I’m part of a team that impacts these chikdren’s Life as well as their families’ lives. I feel so grateful to have my job.
Oh, I love that!! Thank you for your special work with the little ones. 🙂
I was an HR Manager for a bank for 12.5 years and was given a package, in hind sight it may have been the best gift I ever received. I was widowed at 29 while pregnant with my third child. I had just given my notice that I was going to leave my job to be a SAHM. I did stay at home until my youngest was 9, and I opened my own Brick and Mortar store. After 7 years i returned to corporate America at the Bank. Since leaving the bank, I have started a custom shirt business and I LOVE IT! I love designing items for folks that help them have a little fun, and I love when that shirt shares the glory of GOD! By the Grace of God I have always had the ability to Hustle, and have risen to the top in the companies that I worked with, but at 59 – I am excited that GOD has my back and is helping me start over with a new passion/career that is so fun! Thank you for your LIVE event today, It is nice to know it is ok to love my work and my 3 children, and 7 Grands! I have always felt some guilt about the work/family struggle. May God bless your work.
Wow, you really have set an example for so many moms out there. I’m excited to hear about your new venture. I’m sure God will bless you abundantly in it! 🙂
Congratulations Yvonne! You are one of the book giveaway winners! I will email you for your mailing address. Thank you for participating and I hope you enjoy the book!
I’ve been a homemaker for 29 years. I enjoy time alone. However, I struggle with getting stuff done. I’m not a planner and I don’t make lists. I do enjoy co-leading a Bible study Facebook hellomornings small group. Thanks for the opportunity to win this fantastic Holy Hustle gift pack!!
Throughly enjoyed the LIVE broadcast today. ???
Crystal is very realistic and make things seem practical.
Thank you for sharing Crystal’s book with us. I’m tired of this idea that we women should feel bad or guilty for liking what we do or how God created us to achieve. I’m grateful there are finally powerful voices that are speaking to women like me created to work hard and enjoy the hustle.
I’m grateful too that times are changing!!
Traditional work has never been something I enjoyed or worked towards. Longest job i held was 6 years in the Air Force Reserves. And even that wasn’t a “normal” office job! I flew in the largest cargo plane the military has transporting troops and cargo around the world-and how I met my husband! I’m not naturally structured or organized or an early riser but I am driven-when it’s something I care about…strong willed child here! I have had a heart for those who struggle or are hurting or need to be loved on since I was little. My mom stayed home with my sister and I. We had a safe and loving home with an open door policy that carried on through college. I so desired that for my life. I want my home to be a safe haven and a place my kids bring their friends and memories are made. I want to serve the Lord with the gifting He’s given me and I have been praying for an opportunity to present itself and it has finally happened! Almost 20 years of praying about it, 7 years of marriage, 3 houses, 3 years of living in a camper traveling with my husbands job, trials and victories and 2 kids later…IT has finally happened!!! I am ready to get my hustle on and I am going to do what I do best-jump in head first and get things done while keeping my eyes fixed on Jesus! We have a community of almost 8000 and tons of churches but we so desperately need Jesus. My heart is for the autistic adults and special needs families in our community; thanks to you Kathi and one of your podcasts! So long story, short is I want to be available to however God needs me to fill and meets needs of those in my community and sharing the love of Christ. And despite my husband not completely understanding why being a mom isn’t enough and not wanting me to get overwhelmed and our own house not being in perfect condition and how I can take time to do other things but leave clean laundry unfolded on the couch….I will be faithful and obedient and keep praying for courage, endurance and wisdom! I so appreciate your podcast Kathi!!!
I love this! You’re going to do amazing things in your community. 🙂
Until I read this today, I thought the life I lead should be hidden and perhaps apologised for because its not typically and perhaps is over-achieving. God gave us 16 kids, we werent trying for any records and sometimes I just like to stay home so I dont hear one more comment on how patient I must be, or how I must have loved being preganant(what?? -really) and I always blow it off as being nothing, but– I am organised and I can get a lot done and in my secret heart, I think my mothering is changing the world – in a small way.
Thanks for this post. It was so encouraging.!!
Wow, 16 kids! That’s amazing. I’m so glad you loved the podcast. 🙂
Congratulations Miriam! You are the grand prize winner! I will email you for your mailing address. Thank you for participating and I hope you enjoy this awesome gift!
I love this post, Kathi! It speaks to the heart of so many women who hustle to use their giftings. Women in corporate work, sales, medicine, creatives, entrepreneurs, chefs and the list goes on and on. I am thankful for voices that call out to women and encourage them to use all of their gifts. We need to hear this more.
Thank you for the encouragement!
I’m an early riser & I like everything clean & picked up before leaving to work. Always lots to do!
I’m currently raising my grandson so I find myself tired but just keep going. I’m thankful that God has entrusted me to take care of him. It’s hard to juggle everything but he is a joy!
You’re a great example for us all!
I like to go to work even though I feel guilty not being a home stay mom but down deep I know that that wasn’t made for me. I’m over achiever at work, church, home etc . Uff I’m tired already. I need to take it easy. Right?
You won’t find guilt here! Keep up the good work and enjoy it all. 🙂
Loved this post and needed this. I am reading this and nodding my head. Loved the part about being on a deserted island and writing a book in the sand. That would be me.
This is not me at all! lol
Always a super achiever, the older I get the more I find I enjoy me time.
Loved this, Kathi!
It says in John 11:5 “Jesus loved Martha, her sister and Lazarus.” He loved Martha—the woman who was busy. He didn’t create her just to tell her she wasn’t created in a way that glorifies Him. We all bring glory to God as we live out the lives He’s called us to live. We each have a different puzzle to put together! I can’t choose someone else’s pieces to complete the puzzle He gave me.
Love it. Yes!!
And what would we do without our Marthas?!
Right?!
I used to be a super achiever and now I think, not so much! I believe God has something else in mind for me now and I wait to find it in His time (even though sometimes I want my time!).
Keep seeking Him! He’ll reveal it to you at just the right time. 🙂
So good!!! I love the hustle!!
I know you do!
For all those who hate housework and being at home – read Titus 2:3-5 and BE INSPIRED to live as Godly women in your highest calling. If the older women are to teach these things then we better be living it ourselves.
We have a whole group that talks about the (Clutter Free Academy on FB) It’s OK to be honest that you don’t love it, but if we want to care for ourselves and the ones we love, we have to find a way to make peace with it. I love that we all have different talents and callings!
Love this. Just listened to a podcast on rest – and was feeling bad that I am not more restful. I love to hustle – and it doesn’t overwhelm me when I am in the Sweet spot of what God created me to do. Yes, I need to remember the Sabbath – and we all need rest, but this is refreshing to feel good about the level of intensity God gifted me with!
It took me a long time to recognize Sabbath as a gift. (OK, I knew it was a gift, I just kept rejecting it.) Finding the balance between holy work and holy rest is a challenge, but a great one to be striving for. Love the women with gifting who are feeling relief – Like you!
“Sweet spot of what God created me to do!” — Love it!!!
I love this! I totally see myself in your description. I often forget that not everyone feels this way. I am passionate about alot of things and even more thankful the Lord helps me focus on what He has for me in each season of life.
Amen!
I love this blog! This book sounds amazing. I am definitely a super achiever but have found myself over the years backing down for the exact reason listed: I don’t want to make others feel bad. Then I found myself less productive, not happy and frankly, feeling lazy. I think one of the ways I was designed for hustle is to be a facilitator or a leader of a group or meeting where I can listen to others ideas, bring those ideas together, find strengths in others and distribute “to do’s” based on strengths of the participants. I do this in leading our Women’s Ministry at our church. We have the best team of 9 women and I love how we all work together and all I have to do is organize the thoughts and the actions and then work hard on the things I am passionate about and bring in others to participate with their strengths. We all love our team and work so well together. This is definitely an example of our team striving hard to glorify God!!
I love when our talents are encouraging others to use their talents! God is so glorified in that situation!
I absolutely love this! I never thought about it in these terms before. I am a holy hustler. I love forging new paths and making things better. I’ve been a working mom and a stay at home mom but wherever God puts me, He always shows me the need where something needs to be improved and gives me ideas on how to accomplish it.
This is awesome!!!
Thank you for this well timed post!
I always struggled with the guilt of working. I only recently felt able to confess I was miserable through my children’s early years.
Also love the sense that whatever we do it glorifies God. It’s hard to keep high standards at work, with extra pressure when no one else around me appears to feel the same. It’s reminded me that I just need to focus on Him
Amen!!
I felt the guilt as a young mother when I wanted to go back to work after having my babies. I was a terrible stay at home mom. My husband was lucky if I had showered any day
I enjoyed working and contributing to the community. It took me a long time to get over it. The kids didn’t care one way or the other.
I love that you found what works best for your family!
Sometimes I do think Im designed for the hustle because God gave me certain skills that others may not have to lead or complete a project. I don’t always want to do it but I also don’t want to waste the skills God gave me.
I love this book! I was on the launch team. I just wanted to point out to not forget about the last chapter which is about resting well so that you can work hard to glorify God with your hustle. Please don’t enter me in the drawing as I already have the book. Just needed to add my two cents. ?
Definitely tune in for our Facebook Live tomorrow where we will be talking about rest!
I try to super achieve at everything! I am a SAHM, aka home manager. Every task I do has a broader purpose, and what drives me is my super achiever inside of my soul. As I teach myself how to make the home economy thrive, I am passing that knowledge down to my kids. They will have the skills and knowledge to thrive in their own world one day because of the days that they spent at home with me.
Go Stephanie!!!!! So pleased to hear a truly godly response. God MADE our highest calling in the home. And yes, we need to accept it as the BEST job in the world. Your husband and children will rise up and call you blessed. Keep up the great work!! Am with you all the way sister.
I love that women love to be home with their kids and have made that their top priority. We also have many biblical examples of women who work and are praised for it. There will be no “one is better than the other” here. I love and adore my family (trust me, my kids, stepkids and husband know that they are my priority after God,) but I’m also grateful – and will not apologize for using my talents and giftings outside the home. God did not make a mistake when He designed me, or any of these other women.
Love this! I love that we can apply the “super achiever” inside the home or outside. Your kids will be so blessed to see how it’s done!
Congratulations Stephanie! You are one of the book giveaway winners! I will email you for your mailing address. Thank you for participating and I hope you enjoy the book!
I love serving and helping others! Sometimes I feel guilty I can’t do more or wish I had more time to help one more person. Sometimes I get frustrated because other people don’t do more.
I love the quote “Do for one what you wish you could do for all”.
Wow! Thank you! I love being a nurse and love my job. Being a homemaker not so much. I excel at work but stink at housework-it’s just not my passion. Teaching people is just more well fun. Lol. I knew I was different because when I took a weekend off with friends I was excited for a break from my kids and they were crying and worrying the first 2 hours.
I’m grateful you excel at being a nurse! I’ve been cared for and brought back to health by wonderful nurses.
I thrive with a full calendar and panic a little when it’s blank.
I know what you mean!