Nancy Andersonby Nancy Anderson

Twenty five years ago, my marriage was on the brink of divorce, but through a series of miracles my husband and I made a decision to rebuild our marriage. This is the second of a four-part series, all about giving your husband the V.I.P. treatment: respect him Verbally, Intellectually and Physically. (Click here to read parts one, two or three.)

Respect Him Physically

Ask what he would physically like you to do and then, do it. Find out what his top three needs are. Ron likes the laundry done, sex a least twice a week (guaranteed!) and he likes me to keep my “girly-make-up stuff” off of the bathroom counter.

If these top needs are met, he’s content and easy to get along with. I know it sounds simple, but each of us have different things that make us feel loved and appreciated. You won’t know what your husband wants unless you ask him.

Be aware of your body language. You can communicate disrespect by rolling your eyes, crossing your arms, or slamming doors. Reflect your new decision to respect your husband in your heart, mind, and body.

Change your attitude and actions

Respect is both a verb and a noun: an action and an attitude — so begin today to respect your husband in thought, word, and deed. He’ll be more willing and able to give you the love and affection you need if he’s respected and admired. When I began to respect my husband, he was skeptical at first. However as he saw that I was committed to change, he began to treat me differently — lovingly. We now teach at couples’ events, helping others discover the blessings of true love in action.

Ask the Lord to strengthen you as you obey His word.

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” ~ Philippians 4:13

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Guest blogger Nancy C. Anderson is an award-winning author and speaker who loves to teach women and couples to avoid the “Greener Grass Syndrome” by watering their own lawns. Nancy and her husband Ron teach at marriage seminars and banquets. For more information about their speaking schedule and other marriage articles: or their blog