5 Steps to Successfully Prep for The Husband Project

5 Steps to Successfully Prep for The Husband Project

Husband Project

 

Are you excited about starting the project portion of The Husband Project? I am excited for you to get underway, and I’m so thankful to be partnering with Proverbs 31 this summer. It is going to be a summer of fun and life-giving to your marriage. But, like anything in life, it requires you to put your whole self into it. To make the most out of The Husband Project, and for the best chance at success (you know, actually doing the projects) a little prep work is highly recommended.

 

In the spirit of successfully accomplishing what you have now signed up to do, I’ve compiled 5 Steps help you prep for The Husband Project:

 

1. Find at least one friend (two is better!) to help keep you accountable for the duration of the project.

2. Look at all the projects and come up with your own personalized schedule based on upcoming travel plans, visitors, holidays, etc. (Check out the the info below on how to get the official Husband Project calendars!)

3. Share your plan with your accountability partner(s). Ask them if they have any feedback.

4. Grab your supplies! After you fill out your calendar, create a list of supplies for the activities you want to do. To be budget-conscious, you can create weekly lists ahead of time to help you prep well but also stay in your budget.

5. Pray! For your heart, for your attitude, and for your husband to be blessed through it all.

We put together handy calendars to help you prep the projects you want to do, including a filled-in and blank version of the calendar. To get your calendar, sign up for the newsletter! (and if you are already signed up to get the newsletter, your calendars should already be in your inbox!)

 


IT’S NOT TOO LATE!

Sign up for The Husband Project over at Proverbs 31. Even if you don’t have the book, you can follow along with us and bless your husband’s socks off for the next three weeks! Join us!

Husband Project

Episode #205-Shaunti Feldhahn and The Ultimate Resource Guide for (trying to be) Awesome Wives

Episode #205-Shaunti Feldhahn and The Ultimate Resource Guide for (trying to be) Awesome Wives

205-Ultimate-Resource-Guide-for-Awesome-Wives

ListenNowDo you realize the power you have as a wife to change the way your husband walks through this world? How much care and confidence you can give him?

Intimacy is much more than a physical act in your relationship with your husband. For him, it is also emotional.

As we prepare for Proverbs 31 Ministries Online Bible Study of The Husband Project, Erin and I talk with the author of Through a Man’s Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men, Shaunti Feldhahn, in order to better understand how men’s brains are wired for intimacy. When we know what is important to men and why, it helps us to better understand how we can best help them to make a stronger marriage.

The Husband Project Online Bible Study starts today, June 20th. Sign up HERE.

Save

Save

Save

Save

#123 What to Say When Marriage is Hard

#123 What to Say When Marriage is Hard

ListenNowThank you.

I’m sorry.

How can I help you?

Have you ever had a hard time knowing what to say to your husband, especially when you’re at a tough place in your marriage? It’s hard. But often all it takes to rebuild a connection is a few, intentional and encouraging words. In this podcast, Erin and Kathi will:

  • Share simple things you can say (or text) to your husband when marriage is tough.
  • Help you to find the sticky points in your marriage so you know how to avoid those rough places—and to climb out of those dark corners when you are stuck in them.
  • Encourage you to intentionally pursue your husband with respectful and encouraging words.

Listen in, and then click here to read Kathi’s entire list of words you can use to build connections in your marriage.

The Husband Project Valentines Day Challenge- Day 3 Spreading Great Gossip about Your Guy

The Husband Project Valentines Day Challenge- Day 3 Spreading Great Gossip about Your Guy

Spreading Great Gossip About Your Guy

 

Today’s Project: Say something nice about your husband to someone else. Make sure you tell him what you said, and to whom.

As cliché as it may sound, our husbands want to be our heroes. More than they want to know that we love them, they want to know that we respect them. They need to know that they’re never the butt of our jokes, that they’re the go-to-guy in every story we tell.

Make an opportunity today to spread some great gossip about your man. It doesn’t matter if it’s one of your friends or one of his; let that somebody know how blessed you are to be married to your guy.

Some key phrases you may want to put on index cards to help you remember:

?         “I feel so lucky to have a man who knows how to do his own laundry.”

?         “You know when I knew that my husband really loved me? When he could remember my order at Starbucks.”

?         “I just love the way he is with our kids.”

?         “He makes the best lasagna on the planet.”

Steering the Ship

A small rudder on a huge ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets a course in the face of the strongest winds. A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it  (James 3: 3-4 The Message). That’s what great gossip is all about.

As wives, we are often the ship’s captain, while our husbands are that huge ship. Words spoken in encouragement and love can go a long way to building our men up. But the opposite is true as well.  There is nothing that can determine the direction of our husband’s day quicker than the words that are spoken to him in the morning.

Sometimes as wives, we forget the role we play in our husband’s lives. We all remember that great line from My Big Fat Greek Wedding, spoken by Toula’s mom, “The man may be the head of the household, but the woman is the neck. She tells him which way to turn.”

OK, I don’t tell my husband which way to turn, but I do have an influence about how he navigates through his day.

I know that I need to be especially careful about my tone. Sometimes I think I am just oh-so-witty, when really it’s coming off as sarcastic and biting. It’s not enough to just say kind and encouraging words. I need to make sure that whatever words I choose only build up my husband, never tear him down.

That’s what great gossip is all about.

Death to the Dufus Dad

Our world encourages us to define our husbands by what is lacking in them. Need proof? Just turn on your TV.

Watch any channel for more than ten minutes and you’re almost assured of seeing some man playing the role of the dufus dad. You know the one; his wife is always right, his kids don’t respect him, and he’s the punch line of every joke, accompanied by a laugh track. Even his best friend, the dog, thinks he’s kind of a moron.

I feel like it’s time for a man revolution in our generation. No, I don’t want to go back to the times where women were tethered to the oven by their ever-present strand of pearls. But, I do want to see a place where men are allowed to be men and they can be respected for it.

My warrior cry will be, “Death to the Dufus Dad!”

But I digress.

OK – so you have bragged on your husband, now what?

Once you have done your bragging, let your husband know what you said, and to whom. He needs to know that he is the good guy in every story you tell.

With our friends, we have a lot of influence over the “tone” of our speech. Here’s how my friend, Michelle, puts it when it comes to steering away from complaining about her husband, Rick:

“I love this Project and have practiced it for years, even when I was irritated with my husband.  Sometimes hearing yourself point out the good stuff gives you the power to change your own perception of something that’s annoying — of course, not that Rick is EVER annoying.

Another thing I think about… how women can help other women.  When a woman is complaining about her husband (not confiding, because I think there’s a difference and we should be there for our buddies), but when it’s a light-hearted complaint, where a friend may be stuck in a rut, thinking about something in regard to her husband, I try and gently encourage her to see the goodness in her husband.  I might say something like, “Yeah, he likes to watch football, but think of how he’s also bonding with your sons by sharing something they have in common!”  You know, I try to find the silver lining and ‘illuminate’ that for my friend.”

While your greatest need may be for your husband to tell you that he loves you, most guys are programmed differently. He wants, at his very core, to know that you respect him. He wants to know that you are proud of him and that he is the one you would choose again if given the chance.

This goes a long way to solidifying you as a team, as well. There’s no way that anyone in my family would ever say a word against

 

my husband. They know that I’m on his side, and it’s a gossip-free zone around me (unless the gossip is about how great he is.)

So to be entered into today’s giveaway: 1. Tell us something awesome about your husband, and then tell your husband that you bragged on him.

And what will you win? A copy of The “What’s for Dinner?” Solution. Food and flattery – does it get any better for a guy?