By Paula Friedrichsen


Catch for us the foxes,
the little foxes that ruin the vineyards,
our vineyards that are in bloom.
~ Song of Solomon 2:15

Think of your marriage as a vineyard. More often than not, it’s the little things that wreak havoc upon your relationship — those annoying little personality quirks that seemed cute when you and your husband were first dating.

It’s important to walk in forgiveness for the everyday irritations that have the potential to spoil the companionship, fondness, and romance that should be growing in your marriage. Maybe your husband always runs late—or nags you because you always make him late. Or he’s a neat freak, and you have three kids in a house that will never be picked up to his standards. Does he talk with his mouth full…interrupt you at dinner parties…pick his teeth in public?

Whatever the particular little foxes are in your marriage, they need to be met with diligent and persistent acceptance and forgiveness. Forgiveness and acceptance are like sentries stationed on the watchtower of your vineyard, and a powerful tool to keep your vineyard blooming, growing, and productive.

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Paula Friedrichsen

Guest blogger Paula Friedrichsen is a conference speaker and the author of “The Man You Always Wanted is The One You Already Have” (Multnomah 2007). She lives in Northern California with her husband and teenaged daughter.