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Project  #9

Hi-ho, Hi-ho

 Working Together


Your Project:

Today, it’s coming to help your husband to get the job done. Help him get one of his regular duties off his list, or come along side him and assist in a project that he enjoys.


“Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.”

Henry Ford



Teaming Up

            It could be as simple as taking out the garbage, cooking dinner, or washing his car alongside him. Offering to do a job with your man is a great way to get the job done and have some fun along the way.

            I have always had the fantasy (I think along with most of my friends,) that the way my husband and I are going to continue the honeymoon is by candlelit dinners and romantic strolls along tree-laden paths, with a string quartet playing softly in the background, and then to a swelling crescendo, when he declares his everlasting love for me. Plus, the occasional large piece of jewelry would definitely help in keeping that loving feeling alive.

            But, the truth as I know it is that the times I look back on with the most affection are the long hours we talked about love and life while reorganizing the camping equipment on the racks in the garage, or the time we tried to repeat a chicken picatta recipe that we enjoyed at a local restaurant. Not only is the work more fun, it’s less of a chore when you work together.


Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).


            The other benefit to working together is that you’ll be able to complement and celebrate each other’s natural strengths. Where you are weak, and your husband is strong, he will be able to help you.

            Is there a part of a chore that your husband hates, but you don’t mind, or even, enjoy? Support him in a loving and affirmative way by taking the part that you do well, and let his strengths shine. (Plus, if you’re like Roger and me, you’ll be happy to have your husband at the ready, able to reach the fire alarm when some of your cooking experiments have gotten out of hand.)


Prayer for Today

Dear God, let my husband feel he has a partner in me. May he be blessed and supported by me everyday.


Getting Creative

Make it fun and get “his” work done so you can both play.

·         ?Does he enjoy cooking? Maybe he would appreciate a prep cook for the day. Let him perform his sauté magic while you chop, clean and do whatever it is that will let him release the Rocco within.

·         If he’s one of those clean car freaks (we don’t have any at our house, but I have heard they exist) use your Handyvac skills to clean the inside while he works on the outside.

·         Would he rather work alone? Get him a cold drink or a hot chocolate to let him know you’re grateful for all he does.



Project Reports

My husband likes to do the dishes after dinner to relax. So tonight I will dry them while he washes. Should be fun!



This one is hard for us, since we have four kids; we usually have children helping as well.  Also, I already take the trash out, wash the cars and ride the mower.  Yes, things I love that he does not enjoy.  At times I feel like others look down on him because I do those things, but I am the one home and I have no problem doing them.  Sometimes husbands just love it when we sit and watch them do something they love.  For Jeff it’s the x-box.  He loves it when I watch him play or attempt to learn and play myself.  It’s a stretch for me since I don’t really like video games.